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Help is here

6.21.17

There’s a book in the Bible called Exodus. It’s all about God’s faithfulness and grace towards a people who didn’t deserve it and His power to do the seemingly impossible. In it, God saves the Israelites from slavery bringing them right through the Red Sea, they wander the desert with God providing manna from heaven to meet their needs, God gives them the ten commandments, and He comes to dwell among them in the tabernacle. It’s kind of a jam-packed book. In chapter 18, Moses takes a breath from it all and has a heart to heart with his father-in-law Jethro. Moses tells him all the good stuff that’s been happening, all the things worthy of celebrating, the stories he never imagined he’d be able to tell. He also tells him all the challenges they’ve faced along the way and where they’ve seen great victory and where they hope to see victory still. Jethro listens and affirms and encourages…and then he challenges.

Why are you doing this all alone? You’re going to wear yourself out and if you do, what will happen to the people you serve? Moses, this job is too heavy a burden for you to try to handle all by yourself.

Here in our little corner of a suburb of Philadelphia, in our brand new office, that’s the message we heard. We need some help to both carry our burden and increase our capacity for whatever burden God trusts us with.

Last week, help arrived pulling a U-Haul trailer with Texas plates.

When our favorite physical therapists weren’t able to make our orphanage team trip this past October (new babies have a way of affecting plans), I told them I understood entirely…and that they’d have to recruit two doctors to take their place. Fortunately, they were happy to do that. One of those doctors was Erin. They told me she was faithful, mission minded, an excellent pediatric physical therapist in Texas for over 6 years, and delightful. They knew she’d been feeling a nudge for something but she didn’t know what. China was never on her “bucket list,” but she was willing to go. They told me this was the perfect trip for her, that it would meet our need and Erin’s as well. They were right.

The October orphanage trip moved her profoundly. That place she had never been particularly drawn to now captivated her. She was overwhelmed by how hard the staff worked in attempts to meet the needs of the children. She was humbled by their servant heartedness to do this work for years on end with little to no recognition. She was astounded by the resilience of the children to overcome. Life changed for her in the biggest city no one has ever heard of west of Xi’an. A second trip with us to a new orphanage in South China only a couple months later sealed the deal for her and for us.

A few weeks ago, Erin finished her last day practicing physical therapy in Forth Worth, Texas and started packing up her bags. Last week, she packed those bags into a trailer with her little dog Calvin by her side and started the journey to the Northeast.

While practicing physical therapy privately here part time, she’s going to help us as we seek to support adoptive families and children without families and their caregivers as well as seek out and pursue growth opportunities to do all that fuller and better. It’s such a good thing, people, to have help and not just any help but her help. She gets it, and she can bring something to the table that we couldn’t bring. I’m already feeling a bit of the burden lifting.

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Filed Under: The Sparrow Fund

Introducing Oliver and Clawdia

6.18.17

The wait is over. There are two new teeny furry beasts in our home. And, while I know that baby anythings (including coke cans) are cute, these little ones are beyond adorable.

We’re pretty much all obsessed with them (them being Oliver and his teeny twin sister Clawdia). If you don’t believe me, check out the feline fortress Evan created this week in preparation, look at Ashlyn’s 150+ pictures she’s taken of them already, or ask the family we got them from who we’re quite sure are very happy to not have a wannabe feline attachment therapist texting them every other day since these babies were born 2 months ago. (Yes, I apologized to her a few times…in between messages…and gave her family gifts as peace offerings.)

It’s gonna be a great summer as hearts here heal and we laugh at a whole lot of kit kat shenanigans.

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Filed Under: why can't they just stay little forever

To my husband on Father’s Day 2017

6.18.17

Dear husband,

It’s Father’s Day. The kids made you cards. Evan complained that Ashlyn’s once again was better than everyone else’s and made theirs looked like garbage. I made you blueberry pancakes for breakfast but had to make the kids all chocolate chip ones because they didn’t want blueberries and it look so long that I barely got to sit down before kids were finished and forgetting to clear their plates. We were a few minutes late to church, and the kids fussed afterwards about avoiding any “conversation traps” so they could get home to argue over…I mean admire…the new kittens. Our picnic was moved inside given that it was so hot and our dining room was about 5 degrees cooler. The food was awesome though; I hardly minded Lydia crying over not having enough alone time with the kittens.

I hope you enjoyed your day, your perfectly imperfect Father’s Day with two teeny kittens frolicking in the sunroom and 4 not-so-teeny kids, 1/2 of whom give me lip about taking their picture. It was good, not because of any real significant moments but because of lots of insignificant ones. That’s kind of where most of the good stuff seems to be anyway.

I’m not going to tell you you’re the best father in the world; I wouldn’t even know how that role is measured. But, I will tell you you’re the best father for these four. Lydia said whenever she wants to wrestle, you wrestle her. Drew said whenever he wants to go to Goodwill to find something for a project or wants to make something and needs your help, you make time for him. Ashlyn said that whenever one of them isn’t happy, you cheer them up. Evan said that you agreed to new kitties—which I interpret as even though you weren’t thrilled about the responsibility and commitment of new kittens, you said yes because you knew it was what he needed. You may not be the best father in the world; I don’t know what that means and who would want that title anyway? You, my dear, are the father they need. You are the father I need to be by my side. And, as Lydia worded it, “I love you more than any father in the world.”

Thanks for loving them and loving me everyday in spite of days that never seem to go as planned and a little poo outside the litter box…metaphorically speaking, of course…

 

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Filed Under: Mark, Traditions, why can't they just stay little forever

On this day

6.14.17

On this day 1 year ago, we were cleaning and sorting and folding size 8 boys clothes. We were texting two of our closest friends with lots of encouragement and lots of emojis because they were doing the same. We were stocking our frig with hotdogs and laughing at the fact that we were told there was no need for bitter melon. We were keeping our then 10-year-old son up late to head out to the airport where we stood with other excited families. On this day 1 year ago, we brought home the little man who would call us Āyí and ShūShu for a while.

You know the story after that. You know how our friends messaged me and asked more questions because her sister had seen my Facebook posts and my blog posts and her heart was nudged. You know how they ended up buying plane tickets with their son Josiah and came for a weekend visit. You know how they decided this was their boy.

One year later, on this day, this boy is no longer an orphan; he is theirs.



Today, we celebrate. Today is a good day.

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Filed Under: Advocating, M.Y.

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