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God of the impossible

12.22.15

Luke 1:26-28
In the sixth month the angel Gabriel was sent from God to a city of Galilee named Nazareth, to a virgin betrothed[a] to a man whose name was Joseph, of the house of David. And the virgin’s name was Mary. And he came to her and said, “Greetings, O favored one, the Lord is with you!” But she was greatly troubled at the saying, and tried to discern what sort of greeting this might be. And the angel said to her, “Do not be afraid, Mary, for you have found favor with God. And behold, you will conceive in your womb and bear a son, and you shall call his name Jesus. He will be great and will be called the Son of the Most High. And the Lord God will give to him the throne of his father David, and he will reign over the house of Jacob forever, and of his kingdom there will be no end.”

And Mary said to the angel, “How will this be, since I am a virgin?”

And the angel answered her, “The Holy Spirit will come upon you, and the power of the Most High will overshadow you; therefore the child to be born will be called holy—the Son of God. And behold, your relative Elizabeth in her old age has also conceived a son, and this is the sixth month with her who was called barren. For nothing will be impossible with God.” And Mary said, “Behold, I am the servant of the Lord; let it be to me according to your word.” And the angel departed from her.

annunciation1Angels, stars of wonder, shepherds, kings, and a virgin. (That’s awkward.) Christmas hymns are filled with images we have come to treasure in our advent traditions—and then we have that last one. A virgin. I’m going to go out on a limb and say that this season is likely the only time we invite our little children to sing about sexuality. Why is that? Why am I promoting my 6 year old belting out the words “offspring of a virgin’s womb”?

If you don’t know how babies are made, close your browser window and go call your mom and dad. If you do know, then you understand the fact that pregnancy and virginity don’t go together. In fact, it is impossible by definition to have one and have the other too. Despite the fact that Mary lived in pre-Google times, she knew that too, leading her to respond to the angel Gabriel’s mind-blowing announcement with a question, something to the effect of, “I hear you, and I want to believe you, but I don’t understand because that’s impossible. How can this be true?”

Gabriel responds as a faithful ambassador of the King he faithfully serves, answering her question of how—through the limitless power of the Most High coming specifically to her and filling her not only in a spiritual way but in a physical one that has never happened before—and giving her the news that He’s working a miracle in her friend Elizabeth too. His last words to her before he leaves are very simply these: “for nothing will be impossible with God.”

That’s why we welcome both my 6-year-old daughter and 13-year-old son alike to sing about a virgin and why millions of people have before us. We want our children to know the God of the impossible. We want them to know Him because we are surrounded by impossible. We face the impossible together as a family—like finding a family for a child without one and like living on full support to do what we do. And, I know they face the impossible everyday in little ways that are big ways to them. All those impossibles demand a response, one that may not be all that unlike Mary’s initial response that night to her impossible. “I want to believe that God will do something big here, but I don’t understand how that’s possible. There’s no way.” When they find themselves in that place—and when I find myself there—may the words of all those familiar songs come to mind. He’s not only able to do the impossible; He masters in the impossible. He calls into existence the things that do not yet exist (Romans 4:17). We don’t need to know how; we likely wouldn’t be able to comprehend it anyway. We only need to know He does the impossible, that we are never stuck where we are, that we are never ever without hope so that we can say, “I am yours. It’s in your hands, Lord. And, in your hands is the only place I want to be. Keep me there as you do what only you can do.”

 

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Filed Under: words about faith

Breakfast with Santa

12.19.15

A very special little boy for Christmas calls for some some very special fun. I have been seeking out some things we could do together, and this one had me all excited (it may have had something to do with the endless french toast with carmelized banana). Today, we joined a bunch of other families and a lot of Christmas sweaters for Maggiano’s Breakfast With Santa where little sugarplums could eat crispy bacon, eggs, and said french toast until their little hearts and stomachs were content while enjoying hot cocoa from a special North Pole cocoa station and Elf-movie-like decorated cookies (think chocolate sauce, caramel, and marshmallows).

Breakfast with Santa Maggianos King of Prussia collage

Please note Lydia’s raised pinky. She is so red carpet. And, clearly, Drew has followed in his father’s footsteps with his experience of enjoying his bacon.

Breakfast with santa maggiano

As for this little one? He’s all about all-you-can-eat buffets (Exhibit A: the cheeks). What we weren’t sure of was if he’d be all about Santa. We managed to get the quintessential Christmas Santa picture, and I’m very happy to report that all 5 children humored me for it.

Breakfast with Santa maggiano's

Ashlyn’s favorite spot was the cookie decorating station. Merry and bright Lydia went onto the craft area and drew a picture of Santa that she proudly displayed for all to see. Drew made this picture on a star and presented it to NJ, telling him it was Santa on his throne of lies (too much Will Ferrell for us?).

My favorite part of all wasn’t even part of the package deal. All that Santa, sugar-loaded cookies, candy canes in cocoa, and all you can eat french toast put everybody in the Christmas spirit. Jolly old Saint Lydia managed to get all three big kids to sit on her teeny lap and tell her all sorts of silly things they may or may not want for Christmas.

breakfast with santa brunch maggianos

Oh, how I love these kids and those sweet little feet that are sticking out from under the big kids.

Guess the endless french toast and multiple cups of coffee brought out my Christmas spirit too.

NJ at Santa Day with kids in lobby

 

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Filed Under: why can't they just stay little forever

Therapeutic mistletoe

12.18.15

She used to not like babies at all. She would say it was because they put everything in their mouths—I think her words were literally, “because they bite everything.” There was no ooo-s and ahh-s at teeny bundles of cuteness from her. She was perfectly content to let other people take care of all that, as long as those other people didn’t include me. On the rare occasion I would be holding someone’s baby, Lydia would freeze and stare then say something like, “Mama, when you gonna give dat baby back?” I learned to ask her permission before opening my lap or arms to another baby even when she was long past babyhood herself. Most of the time permission was granted; sometimes, it wasn’t. And, I respected that.

At the ripe old age of 6 (and a half), she’s moved past all that. But, as we opened our home up to host a little one over Christmas this year—at our children’s urging, mind you—we wondered if we might see a little bit of her insecurities rise up again.

There’s a conversation we’ve had nearly daily around here over the last two weeks that has been some variation of the following:


[While I’m holding NJ or admiring his preciousness from afar]

Lydia: Mama, who is cuter, me or NJ?

Mama: Definitely you, Lydia. No question. You are so so cute. Definitely the cutest.

[Mama tickles her. Lydia eats it up then walks away content and ready to conquer the world.]


She’s one smart girl, you know. She may not be able to articulate all that’s going on in her heart, but she manages to ask for exactly what the needs. And, I’m happy to give it to her in abundance. When she isn’t asking but feels a bit needy of some reassurance, I can usually find her right here with her Ren Ren in hand and up close to her face like so.

Lydia under mistletoe - 1 (1)


 

Lydia: Mama….Mama….Mama….ummm….hi…do you notice anything?

Mama: Why yes I do…

[kissing fest ensues followed by voracious giggles and the filling of two heart tanks.]


 

Lydia under mistletoe - 1 (2)

Everybody knows a turkey and some mistletoe help to make the season bright. But, our family knows that same mistletoe helps to make our hearts right too. Maybe we’ll just make it a permanent fixture.

mistletoe - 1

 

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Filed Under: attachment

Sorry, I can’t talk right now; I’m hovering.

12.14.15

Hello, thank you for contacting us. We are experiencing an extraordinary volume of requests right now and appreciate your patience. We will be with you in approximately…10 days.

I kinda feel like I need to set that as my email auto reply.

Mark’s (ironically) in China which means I’m the only big person taking care of 5 little persons. Our Christmas cards are still neatly stacked in cellophane wrappers on our dining room table. There are wooden blocks and pretend food that look like permanent fixtures in our seasonal decor. I just keep flagging emails for me to get to tomorrow…and then tomorrow…and then tomorrow.

I thought it would be hard to press pause on nearly everything for this little guy. But, it’s really not that hard. What needs to get done will eventually get done. It’s actually really nice to stop so actively doing to stay close to him and watch him experience little things for the first time.

NJ in pool - 2

NJ in pool - 1

NJ in pool - 4

NJ in pool - 5

We were quite a sight. One lady with a camera, 3 white kids and 1 Chinese girl, all giggling and coaxing this little Chinese boy who was anxiously navigating a few inches of water. The bath at our home seemed crazy to him. For sure, this pool was mind-blowing.

As I hovered over him, fully attentive and always within arm’s reach to pull him up when he stumbled, I couldn’t help but imagine him in a different place, in a different situation, in layers and layers of clothes he’d surely be wearing, in a room with many children with no one hovering.

Everyone deserves to be hovered over.

What an honor, what a privilege, what a joy that we get to hover over him now.

NJ in pool - 7

NJ in pool - 6

Interested in learning more about adoption, the children being hosted through Living Hope Adoption Agency, or becoming a host for the next group of children coming this summer? Email Sarah at Living Hope to learn more.

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Posted by Kelly the Overthinker
Filed Under: Advocating, N.J.

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