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CongCong’s story

4.11.12

I found a bunch of emails in my inbox about a week ago. From an adoptive mama. A mama waiting for her son who will be meeting them very soon. A mama who learned a young man’s story and knew something needed to happen.

Here’s the story.

Simply try to imagine.

An 8-year-old boy living in an orphanage in Xi’an, China. He is not an orphan but a son of an ayi there who now lives and is growing up with the children his mother also cares for.

Everyday, he lives among these children who have no family. He eats with them and plays with them but gets to leave the grounds to go to school as “normal” children do.

There is another young boy in that orphanage about the same age who doesn’t have the same life as Kobe. He is an orphan, but one different from many of the children there. No “special needs;” but an orphan nonetheless. He wasn’t entirely alone—his older brother and younger sister had come to the orphanage with him after their parents had died. And, that is where they stayed, not ever even eligible to be adopted because they had at least one living relative.

This boy, CongCong, became a big brother to Kobe and his closest friend as they grew up side by side.

When Kobe left the orphanage to live with his father at their home in Baoji, the city where part of my heart remains, their hearts hurt. But, every summer, he still came back to the orphanage in Xi’an and joined his brother CongCong until one summer when he was no longer there. He had aged out at about 15 years old and was somewhere on his own.

Years later, Kobe is now a man, a man doing life again with orphans as he works in Xi’an with Bring Me Hope. A few months ago, when he saw an old friend from the orphanage, he heard news that broke his heart. His dear friend CongCong is dying, suffering of acute non-lymph leukemia. Alone. Kobe wrote, “It’s just like when you find a lost precious thing but it turns out to be broken.”

Since then, every Saturday he has spent with CongCong. Encouraging him through their Heavenly Father, the only Father CongCong knows, and caring for him. His treatment is expensive, too costly with no guarantees. At last visit, he had 300 yuan in total, the equivalent of under $50.

Kobe knew he cannot do anything to help. But, he can pray. And, he has—though he has struggled to continue to trust through it all. But, God heard his prayers. And, through a miracle, the orphanage director of the orphanage where CongCong grew up has agreed to pay for CongCong’s medical needs. All. of. them. He even made sure he was moved to a better hospital.

I’m amazed.

But, why should I be? Kobe was praying.

And, now, we are joining him, praying with him, holding the arms of Kobe up and holding this young man CongCong up as he prepares for chemo and fights the disease breaking his body.

And, we are asking you to do the same. Pray. For easy breathing. For strength. For the supernatural removal of pain. And, for another miracle–a cure.

Please also consider caring for CongCong in a tangible way. Send him words of love and encouragement; send him messages of hope (in case the link doesn’t work for you, send an email to EncourageCongCong@gmail.com). Each word will be read and translated to him by Kobe himself.

Together, we can help CongCong know that he is not alone and that people from across the world know his name.

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Posted by Kelly the Overthinker
Filed Under: Advocating

All is well

4.9.12

My Eeyore.

The one with “Ew” in his name. 

Someone very cleverly reminded me that he also has “Dr.” in his name which is so very cool. 
I mean, who wouldn’t want “Dr.” in their name?

In case this new 6 year old needed some reminders of his own like I need mine, he’s got them. One from both parents, his older brother and sister, and even one from each of the Milford girls (yes, he actually got some fan mail).
And, if he by chance he was still feeling a bit like his tail was lost again, he found the silver egg during the Easter egg hunt. 
Oh, yes, he did. With $6.50 in it. My parents have gotten quite generous with their stuffed eggs in their older age. 
I’m sure you can imagine the party that ensued—at least for this one of the 9 egg hunters.

Ni Hao Yall

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Posted by Kelly the Overthinker
Filed Under: Celebrations, Drew

A Cord of Three Strands {Review and Giveaway}

4.7.12

I’m watching my daughter run around with her cousins, laughing so hard she’s throwing her head back.

She’s three. No cares in the world. No questions yet about her story. But, I tell her anyhow. I want her to know her story is much bigger than just us.

In A Cord of Three Strands, Sara Berry and Tricia Robbins do just that—remind us all that our stories are part of a much larger story. The true story of a prodigal child who becomes pregnant and makes the decision to place her child with another family. The true story of a faithful couple whose hearts and arms ache to be filled with a child. And, the true story of a young girl raised by parents who love her deeply, honor the mother who gave her life, and teach her that her story is part of a bigger story—ultimately, one laid out before time began.

Finished in only a few hours, somehow, I found myself able to identify in that short time with every woman in the story—the prodigal child, the parents who struggle to accept her failings, the counselor who mentors the young woman and pours into her, the couple who struggle through infertility together and ultimately adopt a baby girl, and even the girl herself who by grace is able to love and have relationships with both of her mothers.

I’m keeping this one in arm’s reach and looking forward to reading it and talking through it with my oldest daughter soon—the one who was not adopted. Written using quite easy language with not too many words on a page, it won’t be long and I know she’ll be able to handle it and the issues it introduces–peer pressure, discovering our true identity, dealing with our failure, forgiveness, living out grace to people God puts in our path, and the feelings of a birthmother, adoptive mother, and adoptee.

Take a sneak peek here

Want your own copy?

Before you buy it, you may want to try to win one for free here, ‘cause I’m giving one away (that’s always sorta fun). Or, better yet, buy a copy and still try to win so you and your daughter or friend have your own copies to read together.

Just leave a comment sharing why you want to read the book, how you’d use it, what you’d hope to get out of it, or something along those lines. You can enter once here and once on We Are Grafted In if you’d like to double your chances.

I’ll choose a winner Sunday, April 15th when I also choose the winners for my other big ole giveaway. It’ll be a giveaway fest that day.

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Posted by Kelly the Overthinker
Filed Under: giveaways, Reviews

Kelly, the mother Jesus loves

4.5.12

There’s a message God wanted me to hear. And, a woman—Beth Templeton, adoptive mom and gifted teacher–got to deliver it in the presence of 450 other women.

How’s that for a personal lesson?

John. Author of 5 books in the New Testament. The only disciple who was with Jesus from the beginning of His ministry, present during His crucifixion, and witness to His Resurrection.

In his Gospel, one of the books he wrote inspired by God, he calls himself the disciple whom Jesus loved. No less than 5 times (13:23, 19:26, 20:2, 21:7, 21:20)

Why did he do this?

Sorta sounds prideful, maybe boastful. Was John an egotist? Did he simply think so highly of himself that he had to rub it in that he was the one who Christ loved?

This is John—the only disciple who did not run away or hide from authorities when persecution and conviction from the Roman Oppressers and the Jewish Pharisees and Sadducees were rumbling towards them.

Take a look at a few of the other words of John. This man knew about love. In fact, in his three short letters, he made more than 25 references to love. 1 John 4:7-10 says, “Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God. Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love. This is how God showed his love among us: He sent his one and only Son into the world that we might live through him. This is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins.”

John was more conscious of Jesus’ love for him than he was of his love for Jesus.

And, that’s the message I needed to hear.

Because, here’s the thing, my love for Jesus? It’s not really that great. It’s in constant, weak, unfaithful, changing, unpredictable. It’s often self-seeking, at times subtly so and other times quite obviously.

But, Jesus’ love for me? Now, that’s great. In fact, it’s perfect. It’s full. It’s utterly complete, not lacking in anything. It’s constant and faithful, never changing and totally dependable.

And, that’s what I want to be thinking about.

“This is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins.”

And, I’m thinking that as I become more conscious of that love, I may just find that my love is becoming more perfect in the process.

So, I’m claiming it.

I’m the mother Jesus loves.

And, I now have a beautiful physical reminder of that personal message delivered just to me. Kim made it for me. I printed it and framed it in a chalkboard frame so I can add some extra messages there if I need some specific reminders that day. She made me another one too. My family may be finding little notes all over the house.

You know, you are the mother Jesus loves too. So, you just let me know if you want some reminders for your loved self too. Kim has volunteered to personalize these images for a donation of $5 or more to The Sparrow Fund. So cool.

Go ahead, claim His love with me. 

And, if you want a little more to read about God’s thoughts about mothers in particular, head over here for a read about 8 mothers from the Bible and how God loved on them.

(p.s. 10 more days to enter the two giveaways I got goin’ on. Please check them out)

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Posted by Kelly the Overthinker
Filed Under: The Sparrow Fund, words about faith

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