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A graceful segway

9.10.12

The haircut I’m still trying to decide if I like or not. The retiring of our round kitchen table that comfortably sat 4 and has been way crowded with 6 for the last 2 1/2 years. My frustration with the mounds of socks in the laundry now that Croc and flip flops season has ended. Dreams for fall and all things pumpkin.

I’ve been thinking over the last couple days what to post following my previous post my new friend courageously shared here. All that may have been my next post just didn’t seem appropriate or honoring or respectful.

What I will say is that I appreciate how deeply so many interacted with her words and the all that those words mean beyond her own words. Her post was read, folks. Like nearly 1,000 times. And, though the comments here weren’t many, there were quite a few circulating around about it. And, all that is good. And, writing here about how her words challenged so many to consider things more deeply or in a new way, well, that’s the most honoring segway post I can imagine really.

So, instead of writing about haircuts, tables, and cool fall nights like tonight–while those posts may come at some point–I’ll simply leave you with a couple snapshots from today.

The first day of Lydia’s first year Chinese school and the first day of Ashlyn’s third year of Chinese school. It’s a sister thing now.

My intentions of getting adorable pictures of the wee ones in their Chinese preschool class were thwarted by a wee one who was mad because she thought her big sister would actually be in that preschool class with her.

And, there it is. My segway.

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O Captain, My Captain

8.24.12

The child who usually has no interest at all in back-to-school related mail perked up a bit at the invitation with his name on it to become a safety. You would have thought an owl delivered it.

Official training was yesterday. And, though he was slightly disappointed that it wasn’t exactly what he was picturing (he had imagined training on fighting an evil robot by jumping over desks and pushing the teacher aside to safety), he was pretty pumped to already get put to work at new student orientation yesterday.

Check this man, out, ya’ll.

And, given how things seem to roll around here, we may just need a member of the safety squad in our own home.
He’s so proud. I’m so proud. I will curse anyone who reminds me that he is starting his last year of elementary school. Just want to make that clear.

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{Parenting is} not perfect

8.15.12

We had the privilege last night of going to a screening of The Odd Life of Timothy Green. We had watched the trailers. We knew it was Disney and that it had some sort of adoption theme, and it just looked cute.

I’ve come to realize that the most masterful films are ones I’m still thinking about the next day. As other busy moms know, most movies are long gone by the time you are pouring milk on several cereal bowls, wiping up spills, and trying to sip on your morning coffee. 
I can’t stop thinking about this movie. 

They tried to grow their family, did everything they could. But, they are told they need to move on. Their dreams for their child, every one they can name, are literally closed up and buried. But, they somehow–call it a miracle or call it magic–somehow become parents to a little boy. Thrown into parenting the boy of their dreams. And, we watch as they second guess themselves and make choices that may not have been the best.

They are learning as they go.

“We made so many mistakes. We made mistakes fixing our mistakes,” they told an adoption social worker. And, when she asked them why then they think they’d be fit parents, they replied right away something to the effect of, “We won’t be perfect parents, but we’ll make new mistakes.”

And, that’s one of the things I keep thinking about today.

I have made so many mistakes as a parent. Some may be seemingly insignificant. Others I truly grieve. I can claim more than 10 years tenure, yet my mistakes seem to be more obvious than ever. Maybe they are more obvious because I have more kids now with whom to make mistakes. Maybe they are more obvious because the kids are getting more skilled at pointing them out. Maybe I’m simply more in tune with my humanity. Regardless, I’m riddled with imperfection and gifted at making mistakes and making mistakes fixing my mistakes.

Thank God for the hope I have. The hope of realizing the end of myself and my need for grace. The hope of vulnerably repairing mistakes and connecting more deeply with my children. The hope of opportunities my mistakes give me to be real with my kids. And, the hope of moving forward with them, not ever trying to be a perfect mom, just trying to make new mistakes.

I think I’ll still be thinking about this movie tomorrow.

Anyone want to go with me to see it again? 

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{summer ♥} Wizard Potion Drinks

6.30.12

1. Put all young wizards who are privy to spilling, grabbing, drinking incomplete potions, and screaming to bed. This step cannot be overlooked.

2. Allow more mature wizards (clothed in hooded capes and with wands by their side) to choose flavored magic crystals (aka. unsweetened drink mix, in our case blue raspberry and cherry).

3. Mix those crystals with highly secretive and potent crushed diamonds (aka. sugar) and stir gently together.

4. Add in an appropriate amount of H2O (aka. water) to activate the magic crystals and diamond mixture.
5. In glasses (preferably fancy ones for extra power), place a small amount of frozen dreams (aka. vanilla ice cream).
6. Pour a small amount of the magic potion over the frozen dreams.
7. Wave your magic wand over the concoction and say your own magic words (aka. mostly jibber jabber) before pouring magic fizzy drink (aka. lemon lime soda) over it.
8. Have paper towels ready. This potion can actively erupt, causing lots of oooos and ahhhhs as it does.
9. Stand back and watch as young wizards sip their drinks and talk wizard talk around the table.
10. Don’t be surprised if it’s a little too sweet even for wizards with the sweetest sweet teeth around.
we ♥ summer

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