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Room in the inn

1.3.15

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We take the same picture every Christmas morning. The kids give out their gifts, we read about the three gifts of the magi, we give them their three gifts, and then we pull them away from their stockings and the piles of ripped paper to take a picture. This year was no different; every kid stood in front of the tree with a favorite gift. But, this year, there was an extra kiddo in that picture. Yeah, that boy in the puffy vest holding a toy robot? He’s not mine in case you haven’t noticed. But, he sorta fits right in, doesn’t he? I swear that I didn’t even pose the picture. They all just sorta stood like that equidistant from each other in perfect formation.

There have been people who have praised us for bringing Helen and Caleb into our home. I always tell them that it’s a joy to have them, that Helen is a sweet friend and that Caleb is smart and funny and the perfect little addition to our four. And, all that is true. But, there’s more to it than that.

We went to a live nativity right before Christmas. It wasn’t just kids dressed up with some token animals standing by. It was a full play complete with angels singing on top of the barn. I watched as Joseph and Mary knocked on the Innkeepers door, and he waved them away. I’m sure he was so busy, and his inn was crowded. I get that. But, because there was no room left in the inn, at least in his opinion, he said no to a very pregnant woman and ultimately declined the incredible opportunity to have the very son of God enter into our world in his home. I wonder who he was. I wonder if the wise men stopped there too and asked if he knew where the king of Jews had been born. I wonder if he remembered that night when he heard about Herod trying to find the baby. I wonder if he regretted it later or justified it in his mind or to his neighbors.

This past fall, when we told Frank and Helen that our home was full but not too full for them, that we’d make room, we did what was right not because we are heroes. We most definitely are not. We just knew we couldn’t be like that innkeeper. We could not live with not inviting them in. Bringing them here wasn’t the only option to keep them safe; but, it was the only guaranteed safe option as her belly grew. We could not simply name those possible options for them and wave them on and miss the opportunity to love them and experience Jesus in a new way in our own home by making room in the inn. We were compelled. At this point, about one third into their stay with us, I can say that it’s not always easy to share a home. It’s not always comfortable, and it’s nearly never quiet. But, it’s very much worth it because we’re all experiencing Him in real ways.

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Filed Under: China, Helen, posts I can't really tag, words about faith

It’s a…

12.9.14

There I sat in a pleather seated chair in the perinatal testing center waiting room. It was nearly 9 years when I last did this. I can remember it so clearly and yet the reality of those 9 years is not lost on me. It’s been a long time. Our family is so different than it was then; I’m so different than I was then. The fact that I found myself even sitting there with a pile of coats in my lap waiting for a Chinese last name that no one can pronounce correctly to be called is evidence of that.

When we were called back, I sat behind her and witnessed her marveling at her first sight of her child. She had an ultrasound in China before but was never allowed to see the baby; only the doctor could look at the child and I doubt there was a lot of marveling going on.

They told me no pictures; it’s the hospital rules. And, they even put a friendly sign up there by the main attraction as a reminder. But, seriously, there was a father in China who had stayed up late so not to miss this. So, I may have snuck a picture or two and texted them to him real time.

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Yeah, a lot has changed in 9 years, but I still can’t see much in these pictures. But, it didn’t matter; we admired this precious child as if those moving black and white fuzzy images were clear as day.

And, then we went down to the hospital lobby and got her husband on FaceTime. I held my iPhone up so he could watch as she opened up an envelope with a paper that said this.

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At the same time, on opposite sides of the world, they laughed and smiled and teared up…together.

It’s a girl, friends. They are having a baby girl!

I know they can’t take a whole with them back to China…but I so wanna go buy some pink things!

 

 

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Caleb’s letters

12.9.14

All in Mandarin, translated to me afterwards by Helen in between giggles…

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Caleb: I want to write a letter to Evan, Ashlyn, Drew, and Lydia and mail them to their schools for them to get when they are at school.

Helen: What would you say to them?

Caleb: I would write to Drew and say, “Dear Drew, I love you. I love to play with you. When you are in school, I stay home and wait for you. Love, Caleb.”

Helen: Oh, that’s nice. What would you say to Evan?

Caleb: I would say, “Dear Evan, I love you. I love to play with you. But, I love to play with Ashlyn more.”

 

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Our “interesting” new home

11.16.14

Everything is interesting in our house.

The trail that airplanes leave behind them in the sky.
Carseats.
Pretzels (a Philadelphian food group).
Coffee every morning (a Kelly Raudenbush food group).
Red and yellow Autumn leaves.
Lunches on the go.
Big yellow school buses.
The dishwasher.
Heat we can control.

Over the last couple years, I have spent a lot of time writing about things that are interesting to me about China as we have traveled back and forth, led teams of people there, and fallen in love with this far away place. But over the last two weeks, I have been consumed with all the things interesting right here around me as we watch our friends experience them for the first time.

Our guest room is no longer a guest room; it’s Helen’s room. She has a towel with her name on it hanging on the back of the door. Her books are on the nightstand. And, she’s posted the children’s library schedule on her wall. It’s no longer a sterile room that we quickly put together with second-hand finds; it’s full of color and personality and activity, especially since we haven’t been able to convince 3 year old Caleb to transition off her floor to the bottom bunk in Drew’s room.

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Our friends and coworkers arrived from China nearly two weeks ago, needing a safe place to live as her belly grows for the second time. They weren’t safe where they were since they are from the most conservative province in China when it comes to second children. They may have been okay; but no one was willing to take that risk. Maybe safe isn’t good enough when we’re talking about life. We were excited to have them, but I confess we thought it might be challenging. But, so far, despite our one full bathroom and outdated kitchen, it’s been a blessing.

The piano I had to have that not a single person in our family plays has been filling our home with Chinese hymns. Our children have been running home from school to play with the little boy who has taken over all the toys they sort of forgot about over the years. I’ve had a friend beside me stirring dishes on the stove. And, we’ve been lingering at the dinner table longer in the evening as we continue conversation.

Evan voluntarily joined me for one of my many recent trips to the grocery store. He didn’t sigh or complain when I had to return to the back of the store because I forgot something. He stood in line with a smile and pushed the cart for the entire trip while I twitted about filling it. Caleb had come with us; that’s why. When we turned left onto our street and our house came into view, Caleb yelled loudly from his “special seat with buckles” in the back, “I see my home! There is my home!”

This is our home for now. Busy, noisy, crowded, and joyful, new, and safe with a whole lot of great smelling food and lots of “interesting.”

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Filed Under: China, Helen, posts I can't really tag

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