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Our perfect travel agent proved Himself

10.21.14

It was our last day on the other side of the world. When we were told that there were no flights out of Beijing that day and that we’d have to fly to Shanghai for a 9-hour layover and then fly home, we thought we had the worst travel agent ever. But, then we remembered who lived in Shanghai.

I had advocated for him once, having been drawn in by his sweet smile in a photo I happened to see on a waiting child list online. I was thrilled when a family said yes to him and started the process to bring him home. A year later, when that day came to meet him and make him theirs, it ended with broken hearts. They weren’t prepared to parent him and they came home with empty arms and heavy spirits, and he went back to the place he thought he’d never see again with more brokenness than what was there before.

Rather then spend those 9 hours sipping hot milk teas in Shanghai, we grabbed our suitcases and found the guide whom I had hired ahead of time and drove wide eyed through the streets of Shanghai until we reached the gates of the orphanage where nearly 800 children call some semblance of home.

Within those gates, we met the boy whose smile had made me pause one night as I was surfing online. There we held his hand and asked him questions and took his picture and let him take ours. There we talked to his teacher and heard about how clever he is but how he doesn’t like to study much. There we told him he was special, that he was loved. He told us he wanted another family; he wanted to try again. We told him we’d make sure we’d share about him with everyone we could until we knew he had a family.

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It was only an hour later when we climbed back into that van and returned to the Shanghai airport to fly home. I confess that I wondered if it would happen for him, if a family would have the courage to adopt an older boy who not only had a special need but who had already been sent back by someone else. Even with the stories and images we could share, I wondered if he…if He…had a family for him.

My travel home from this trip to China is much different than my last trip. No glitches. No layovers. No delays. Just a taxi to the bus station, a bus to the airport, a nice visit to the United lounge courtesy of our bosses’ wife, and a row entirely to myself on my direct flight home.

But, His timing is perfect, as it always is because instead of spending the last day of my trip visiting a boy who desperately needed a family, I got to see him receive one. This morning, as I was zipping up my suitcase and sipping my instant coffee, I received this.

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Today, on my last day in China, the little boy I called Lee became Brody. Today, the child whose heart has been scarred got to hear the words “I love you” and “we’re forever.”

It didn’t need to be today that I saw those pictures, but it was. They were a gift to me, a little pat on the shoulder just to remind me that He’s going before me and that His plans for me are perfect and that all I’ve gotta do is follow Him, the “worst travel agent ever.”

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Posted by Kelly the Overthinker
Filed Under: Advocating, China

Still waiting {advocating}

9.25.14

I shared glimpses of him already. And, a whole lot of folks saw his sweet face.

Of the thousands of people who saw this little smirk in his big puffy coat, the family—his family—hasn’t met him just yet.

So, I’m bringing out the big guns—videos. And, I’m asking you all to share again. Because if I need to bring out the bigger guns, I may have to figure out how to make him come through your computer screen and sit on your lap.

Yeah, that cackling laugh at the end of that dancing video is mine. I clipped the video to spare you having to listen to the whole laugh. Feel free to thank me for that.

America World only has his file for a couple more weeks at which time they have to return it to the office in China that manages adoptions and say they were unable to find a family for him. A family does not need to be paper ready for an adoption to say yes to him. If you wanna know more or want me to connect you to the social worker committed to my little buddy, shoot me an email at kraudenbush@sparrow-fund.org.

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Posted by Kelly the Overthinker
Filed Under: Advocating

He has a special need {advocating}

9.18.14

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The boy likes his crackers, and he’s not afraid to make sure you know that by stomping his feet with utter joy at the sight of the package.

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He can be a bit of a schmoozer too. Check out that look. Yeah, he knows he’s a bit of a rockstar.

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He may or may not be a ladies’ man and can pull off that puffy coat like nobody else.


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Though he doesn’t always show it….especially when he can see crackers in another kid’s hands.

He’s pretty darn amazing.

He has a birthmark on his face. That’s really not a special need though.

His special need is that he doesn’t have a family. And, he’s been waiting…

because he’s a boy…and he’s not a teeny baby anymore…

and because his family just hasn’t met him yet.

So, allow me to introduce you to this guy. Maybe today’s the day.

 

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Posted by Kelly the Overthinker
Filed Under: Advocating

Together for good

5.14.14

Those of you who’ve been to China have experienced something in a real way that most people never know—jet lag. It’s sort of like the sheer physical and emotional exhaustion and sick-to-your-stomach feeling you’d get if someone woke you at 3am and told you it was time for breakfast except that it’s really 3pm and your children are about to come home from school and need your help with homework. Add in the fact that when the rest of your home is tucked all snug in their beds, you feel like you just drank a full pot of coffee and are tired only of counting sheep in the form of scrolling through Facebook. Yeah, it’s not good at all.

The first night I spent at home in March after my trip to China, I sat in front of my Macbook but closed down Facebook and tried to put some words together about a little boy who had mysteriously captured my heart initially through that same screen in front of me who was now my sweet friend. When I hit “publish,” this is what posted.

I had a lot of emails that weekend. But, there was one message in particular that made me very very hopeful. I knew this mama already because she had brought home a child I had advocated for less than a year ago. I had gotten a glimpse then of her heart for children and for adoption and how fiercely she would become her child’s no-one-gets-passed-me advocate for life. So, I gave her all the information I could and sought to give her even more. And, I prayed.

Adopting right now wasn’t exactly their plan. She shared today on her blog, “For so many reasons in my mind, going back to China wasn’t good for ‘me’ or our family.” But, God nudged them and put all sorts of confirmations around them until they could not not go after their son.

After weeks now of being ready to burst with joy, I am handing off the baton of advocating for a season for QuiLe to the one who God is already transforming into his fierce no-one-gets-passed-me advocate for life.

They’re coming for you, friend. I know you’ve waited for a long time and have endured years of crowded loneliness. But, they’re well on their way to making you a son. It’s going to be hard, but it’s going to be good. 

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Posted by Kelly the Overthinker
Filed Under: Advocating

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