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12.7.15

No international trip happens without a wee bit of chaos. Apparently, the journey of 12 orphans and their caregivers is no different. When the translator and director of the program received a call from an immigration officer asking what was up, we knew there’d be a slight delay in his arrival plans. Turns out, that slight delay put him arriving at our house at 2:30am Saturday night. Our four so wanted to stay up to welcome him. We finally coaxed them to go to sleep only when we promised we’d wake them up to tell them he was finally here.

I’m beginning to get a little insecure about my scary factor because just like Lydia did when we first met her, when N.J. came in, he shooed me away and went right for Mark, saying “Baba” as he did. By the time we introduced him to four sleepy children and gave him some food though, I must have moved up on his acceptable list. By 3:30am, he was bundled in footie pajamas and cocooned in my arms on the couch. There he and I stayed for 3 hours, both of us in and out of sleep. Let’s just say that by 7am, he looked pretty cute, and I looked like I needed a few cups of coffee.

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Despite his crazy adventure getting here, he has done beautifully, joining us for church and his first Sunday School class (the bags under my eyes and I stayed with him) and for Lydia’s Chinese class Sunday afternoon (he genuinely seemed to enjoy hearing Mandarin…and me letting him rip up paper at his desk).

And, let me tell you this, people. This boy breaks all stereotypes of the petite Chinese child. At about 3 1/2, he easily weighs more than Lydia. Could have something to do with the fact that he thoroughly enjoys food, like kind of all the time. We got no problem there, people. In fact, when he’s not eating, he is playing that he’s eating. Yup, his favorite toy here so far is this play pot filled with pretend food that he stirs over and over again and then pretends to eat.

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Interested in learning more about this little guy we’re calling “N.J.”? He’s currently available for adoption through Living Hope Adoption Agency. He’s “special focus” which means that any family, regardless of if they have any paperwork ready, could adopt him. Email Sarah at Living Hope to learn more.

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Posted by Kelly the Overthinker
Filed Under: Advocating, N.J.

He’s on his way

12.5.15

12311317_10208080707885928_7507080081420703071_nA little 3 1/2 year old boy just braved a very busy airport, went through security, had papers checked and double checked, and then walked down a funny little hallway to board a big plane for his very first plane ride. There are 11 other children with him all anxiously anticipating what will be at the end of that plane ride. There are also 4 orphanage directors and some other caregivers too accompanying them, no doubt excited and anxious too about what the place they literally call “beautiful country” is really like.

I can only imagine the scene of getting those children ready to go with only small backpacks on their backs with whatever someone saw as essentials. I wonder if the staff made them all hold hands, weaving through the crowds of the airport like the tail of a kite. Did the wealthy people in their fashionable clothes there in Beijing point at them and try to take their picture? Did the staff put their hands up, gesturing for privacy? Or, did the staff proudly line the children up, appreciating the attention to this brand new exchange program for their orphanage?

N.J. is the youngest child in the group. The oldest is nearly 14. I hope all of their seats are together so that oldest boy or one of those children can show N.J. how to watch a show to pass the time. There’s a lot of it to pass—13 hours after which N.J. will get in a car (and a carseat for the first time) for another 2 1/2 hours before he arrives at our door.

We’re all going to stay up past bedtime to welcome him in a quiet way. No signs. No fanfare. No big hugs. We’ll let him wander around a little to see this place that will be his home for this season. We’ll show him where the little potty is (the one I couldn’t believe I was buying yesterday). We’ll show him his bed and loosen the sheets for him and show him how to pull them down (so much is so different). And, then we’ll just sit and pray that he eventually will want to get in them and sleep so the rest of us can too.

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Posted by Kelly the Overthinker
Filed Under: Advocating, N.J.

Santa isn’t the only one coming to town

11.12.15

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There’s a countdown paper chain in the corner of our kitchen. It started out as 20 links. Right now, it’s at 15 and getting one link shorter everyday until December 5th arrives. We’re not counting down to a big trip this time or the day we cut down our tree. This time, we’re counting down to the arrival of this little guy.

EnZhe

When our adoption agency sent out a big email blast about their new hosting program months ago, we talked about being a part of it. But, we had lots of reasons not to.

– This is our first year with all the kids in school which means my first year to be doing more outside the home and actually get some things done.
– We travel a lot, like a lot a lot. In fact, Mark has a China trip for 10 days over the hosting time.
– We had just finished a labor intensive hosting (…pun intended).
– It cost a good bit of money.

We didn’t think about it again until the day I got back from China. The agency had hoped to bring over 20 kids but since it was the first time they were doing this, they were only at 11. Emails went back and forth. Entire fees were waived. Lots of jet-lagged conversations happened. Four Raudenbush children joined those conversations. We asked the question, “Why would we not do it?” and all of the answers that seemed to roll off our tongues months before could be summed up with one answer, “It would be really hard.” And, we just decided that that answer wasn’t enough.

– Our kids were excited about making our Christmas traditions be about joy for someone other than ourselves. (They literally said that which is kinda a cool thing, right?)
– The decision became less about if we were able to do this and more about if we were willing to do this. (Thanks to two friends who kinda pointed this out to me.)
– I had just shared how we were learning that we can only be filled up again and again when we are poured out. (He always seems to ask us to put the lessons we’re learning into practice, right? Yeah, that happens.)
– The cost had been provided, nearly completely provided, down to our social worker even offering a few hand-me-downs the little pumpkin can use here when he arrives with only the clothes on his back. (Yup, couldn’t use finances as any excuse.)

So, yes, it’s costly in a lot of ways and perhaps a little crazy to some. But, we’re counting down with great anticipation because in 15 days, there will be another little set of feet in our humble home for Christmas. We can’t wait to get to know him and celebrate Christmas with him and introduce him to all of you because this little guy is looking for more than a family to host him for Christmas. And, all 6 of us are committed to helping him find that family.

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Posted by Kelly the Overthinker
Filed Under: Advocating, Orphans

This boy

9.2.15

Late last night, an email hit my inbox. The words were few, just a phrase clearly generated by an online translator website. But, the pictures were amazing.

his frog

That one? That’s an origami frog. Not amazing, but super cute because a 12 year old boy folded it carefully and wanted to show it to his new mom and dad. And, right now, the only link he has to them is through me.

But, the next picture? AMAZING.

His artwork

I marveled at it and forwarded it along to his waiting mama who marveled at it even more than I did.

Then I set out to find someone to translate it.

This is my home.

Hi beloved Uncle and Auntie,
I can hardly control myself so I grabbed my pen. I have been dreaming of what my future house is like. The moment I finished this picture, I wanted to share this with you two. I cannot stop imagining how happy we will be when we live in this home together. My heart is filled with love and happiness now. I really want to share my happiness with you right now. Wish you happy and healthy, and hope everything goes well with you!

L. C.G.

Told you so.

Amazing.

This boy is going to bless their socks off.

This post was shared with permission of L. C.G.’s mama

 

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Posted by Kelly the Overthinker
Filed Under: adoption, Advocating, Orphans

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