• Home
  • Blog
  • The Sparrow Fund
    • Together Called
    • We Are Grafted In blog
    • Speaking
  • Jiayin
  • Contact

My Overthinking

Philly Area mom, Life forever changed by adoption

  • Home
  • Blog
  • The Sparrow Fund
    • Together Called
    • We Are Grafted In blog
    • Speaking
  • Jiayin
  • Contact

He is Risen. He is Risen Indeed.

4.4.10

Happy Easter from Guangzhou, China! What a joy it was to celebrate our Lord’s resurrection in China at church this morning! The service was really neat–a kids’ choir, a youth choir, a string instrument ensemble, a sermon complete with an opening joke. We sang some familiar songs like “Jesus Christ, I Think About Your Sacrifice” and, of course, “Up From The Grave He Arose” along with some Chinese songs. It was moving to hear the songs in Chinese and consider that brothers and sisters all over the world are praising their Lord and Savior today. Though the languages are all different, He is glorified in every one. 
Though we are missing our children getting their Easter baskets and our family’s annual Easter Egg hunt (complete with singing the Mickey Mouse theme song first with our right hands over our left hearts), we are celebrating Easter here. It’s even made complete with pictures in an Easter bonnet with a bunny. And, of course, we’ll spend the day making up new words to “Up From the Grave” (i.e. up from the crib she arose, with some big boogers in her nose…I know, totally sacrilegious). And, I got another bet from Mark to stand up at the packed breakfast buffet and announce, “He is risen!” He said he’d stand up and yell, “He is risen indeed!” But, I don’t trust him. 
Aren’t these pictures amazing?
Dear Evan, Ashlyn, and Drew–we heard all about your lemonade stand you did with Grammy. I can’t believe you made so much money! Did you put it in the jar to save for Disney World? Happy Easter to you! I hope you guys love the baskets we put together for you before we left for China. We are already talking about planning a trip to come back to China with you all next time. You’d have a lot of fun here, I’m sure. We love you!

No related posts.

Posted by Kelly the Overthinker
Filed Under: adoption journey

Medical Exam and Roasted Pigeon

4.4.10

French toast, tater tots, eggs, bacon. Who could ask for a better way to start a morning? The breakfast buffet at the White Swan kicks. After having mainly fried rice and fried noodles and dumplings for breakfast for the last week and a half, we were pretty excited about the awesome breakfast buffet here. And, it was such a pleasure to reunite with the families from our travel group. I started to cry when I saw them each with their girls for the first time. Lindsay (3 in June) is doing great–she is bright and spirited and just bops all over the place. Her parents are overjoyed and wear that joy on their faces. And, big brother Jackson (7) and Lindsay have bonded just perfectly already. Ellie (2 1/2) is a real thinker, always looks very pensive and careful. She’s having a hard time with her routine changing. But, her parents Jeff and Julie are just great and are so patient with her. I look forward to seeing how she grows and is transformed over the next few days even. There’s one other family who is here with our group who wasn’t in Beijing. Their baby Caroline is 2 months older than Lydia. I haven’t been able to spend enough time with her yet to get a feel for what she’s like. But, she’s a real cutie pie and seems to be eating up all the attention given to her by Mom and Dad and her new big sister Nara.

We walked to a photo shop to get visa pictures taken of all the girls. Then, we headed over to the medical clinic. I had walked into that building expecting chaos just from following other families’ blogs. My expectations were pretty much met–though the pictures just don’t do it justice. You gotta see the video and hear the noise to really get it. But, we were fortunate that we were one of the first groups of families to arrive so we did get in and out of there quickly. We took Lydia to 3 different stations–general body check, ENT, and measurement check. I particularly got a kick out of how they checked her hearing–the doctor just hit “demo” on a small keyboard on his desk and waited to see if she’d look at it. As soon as she turned her head, her test was done. Her measurements were basically the same as the last ones we got from her orphanage except for her weight. We were told she weighed nearly 18 lbs. I’m guessing they weighed her with all of her puffy clothes on because even in her clothes today, she weighed not quite 16 lbs. She’s the size of an average 5 1/2-7 mo. old American baby (considering weight and height) which is why she looks pretty funny walking. Though many of the children at the clinic were screaming (poor Ellie was one of them. She was screaming before the doctors ever looked at her AND she needed a TB test and 5 shots. Poor baby.), Lydia was no worse for wear. She didn’t need any shots (though she’ll need all of them once we get home. She hasn’t had any.), and she promptly fell asleep in Mark’s arms afterwards. She seems to like a little morning cat nap.

When we got back, a “white swan fairy” had left a gift in our room—the famous going home Barbie that all adoptive families who stay at the White Swan receive. It’s a fun keepsake to bring home though I have to say that the baby really doesn’t look Chinese to me. Well, guess that doesn’t really matter since I look nothing like Barbie either. Mattel designs the dolls, one different for each year, just for the White Swan and sponsors a play room that families can use in the hotel.

Mark stayed back in the room to work on getting the internet working for us while I went with our travel group to the famous Lucy’s restaurant down the street which serves American food. I had my first taste of American food since we left home, a little pizza which actually was pretty good (Lydia thought so too!). Note to other travelers though—I ordered a coke too and it cost nearly as much as my meal. Bring your own drinks there!

The afternoon was then spent doing oodles of paperwork. It is crazy how much paperwork has to be done. Mark worked on it with our guide and the other families for over 90 minutes while Lydia and I walked around and played in the Mattel sponsored play room with a bunch of other kids and their parents. It was fun to see all the parents working hard to connect with their new children and see some of the children learning to play freely perhaps for the first time.

We had a group dinner which also included the Woods family, a family I’ve gotten to know over email who just adopted a 4 year old healthy little boy named Jake. Jake was a real kick–doesn’t speak a word of English but was super excited to to show off his picture album that his parents had sent him before traveling. And, my heart was warmed when he was calling me “ayi” (auntie) by the end of the dinner. We enjoyed Cantonese specialties of this region including (drumroll, please) roasted pigeon. We all tried it–tasted like the dark meat of turkey, not so great. But, I tell you what, those Chinese kids just went to town on it.

I’m looking forward to the week in Guangzhou–I’m still feeling “resortish” here, and I’ve really enjoyed seeing all the other adoptive families around.

No related posts.

Posted by Kelly the Overthinker
Filed Under: adoption journey

Leaving Xi’an and Entering the Last Leg

4.3.10

It’s 7:10 AM right now on Saturday morning our time. We are preparing for an interesting today taking Lydia along with oodles of other Chinese adopted children to the medical clinic to be given the okay to enter the U.S. We didn’t get into our room in Guangzhou until very late and couldn’t get the internet to work. So, this had to wait until this morning.

Since we missed a day of touring due to the terracotta warriors’ revenge we suffered from on Wednesday, we decided to fit in visiting the famous site yesterday on our travel day which made for a busy day. We checked out of our hotel early and then drove the 45 minutes to see this amazing attraction. Thousands of terracotta warriors were found here in the 1970s by a farmer (apparently there were 2 very, very human looking ones–see the pictures?) He reported the find to the government who took over the area, recognizing that it was something special. The farmer, as compensation, was given a job at the museum. He just sits there and signs his name in tourist books all day everyday. Each warrior was made uniquely to represent different members of the imperial army and were set up near the emperor’s tomb to protect it from attack after he was buried. Very odd to consider. But, the emperor started building them when he was only 13 years old. So, guess he just didn’t know better??? Jason–you’d be proud of Mark. He told me he’d give me 100 yuan if I jumped the wall and got up on one of the terracotta horses and pretended to ride it. Can you imagine my facial expression back? I think I’d be getting myself a quick ticket out of China if I took him up on it. We also visited a lacquer furniture workshop and shop where they create new terracotta warriors and learned how they make them. They actually fire them in cave like areas under ground using coal. We got some prizes there for our kids (cannot say what they are since they read these posts, but can you guess?) and had one last really good lunch in Xi’an. We have decided that we are terrible at ordering. Every meal we ordered ourselves pretty much stunk. The meals that guides ordered for us have been amazing. So, we quit. If we have to eat out again with no guide, I may very well go to a neighboring table and just ask some random Chinese person to order for us.

We then headed to the airport to head to Guangzhou for the last leg of our trip. Nearly at the same time, my parents are heading home and handing the baton off to Mark’s mom at home. I thought about them a lot as we were leaving. My mom has sent us daily emails summing up their days which have been good to read, and we’ve been skyping them at least once a day. That’s so fun to do–Ashlyn especially is so excited about Lydia and wants us to just set the computer up so that she can just watch whatever she’s doing. Evan’s been a real trooper despite his broken foot, a tooth falling out, and now an ear infection. And, Drew, well, he’s more interested in playing wii than talking to us. Sounds like he’s been a real handful. And, they have been spoiled to death. As one of my mom’s emails read, “Can a body get too many chicken nuggets?” The kids may not want us to come home!

We were quite the attraction at the airport especially because our flight was delayed 2 hours so were there a very long time. Every one was oogling at Lydia. I am shocked how Chinese people will come up to us and just put their arms up asking to hold her. It’s always this uncomfortable situation as we just sort of turn away, and they are standing their disappointed. And, they just keep speaking to me in Chinese about her. I don’t know what they were saying except that I am sure it had to do with her not being dressed warm enough and that she shouldn’t suck on her fingers. Those are pretty much the things we hear most often…in addition to how cute she is, of course. I was so tired from our day that I used the men’s room—yup, I did. As if the women’s rooms aren’t scary enough, I went right into the men’s room at the airport. Didn’t realize it until I came out and noticed our “audience” giggling while covering their mouths. Nice.

She was a champ on the 2 hour flight to Guangzhou—hope she is still a champ on that LONG flight home. We didn’t get into Guangzhou until late, but I gotta say I was pretty darn happy when we drove around to the White Swan. It was all dark except for pretty lights on the water and the colorful lights on the ferry boats. Having spent a week in a busy city and a long day traveling, I felt like we just entered the Disney World of China. And, entering the hotel confirmed that (if you disregard the lovely Chinese karaoke rendition of “Wonderful Tonight” as we came in). The waterfall and koi pond and marble, etc. is just gorgeous. Plus, everyone here pretty much are adoptive families. I’m really looking forward to reuniting with our travel group today and meeting their little girls.

No related posts.

Posted by Kelly the Overthinker
Filed Under: adoption journey

Found

4.1.10

Every adoption in China takes place in the capital city of the province where the child is from. Our daughter is from Shaanxi Province, and we spent this week in Xi’an, the capital, to complete her adoption. She was found and cared for in a city called Baoji which is 2-3 hours from the capital. Though we knew this was quite a journey, we thought it would be a trip we had to make. So, we set out today for Baoji to see her orphanage and find her finding place. The drive wasn’t a bad one really. Since there are no carseats here, Lydia enjoyed her freedom in the back of the car with Mark and me. And, we enjoyed looking around and asking our guide many questions. We saw lots of farms with winter wheat, old houses, and lots of cave dwellings right up to the city even. We stopped at a dumpling restaurant for lunch and met up with some American English teachers who know my parents. So nice to meet up with them and know that we have a connection to Baoji through them. 
 
Next stop, Lydia’s orphanage. The director met us at the gate and walked us onto the grounds of the orphanage which was in a sort of compound all gated with the home for elderly on one side and the home for children on the other. They told us that the children’s home is moving to another location entirely come May or June. Their current building will be used for more housing for elderly. We are the first family who has visited since before the swine flu scares and the last one to visit this location. There were no people except for a few elderly folks sitting outside when we arrived. But, we drew quite a crowd as staff came out to see us and dote on Lydia. They all were calling her name “YueYue” and trying to get her to smile which she was doing quite readily. Her favorite ayi came out and held her and told us that of all the children (110 they have, 95% of which are special needs children), YueYue was her favorite. And, you could tell that she was telling the truth. They all were loving on her and giving her kisses. Of course, we were chided once again for not dressing her warm enough despite the fact that I put a footed sleeper underneath her clothes so that no skin would show. The director said we could not go into the orphanage because of the swine flu and fear of hand, foot, mouth disease (really?) but that they would take our camera in and take pictures for us. So, they did while we visited outside with all the doting nannies. I am disappointed we couldn’t get in, but I’m thankful for the time we had there nonetheless. It was wonderful to see how much the staff cared for our daughter, and we can tell her much more about her history than we could have otherwise. They gave us a bag with the blanket she was found in (I was picturing a thin receiving blanket. It’s more like a big, furry blanket for a twin bed or something. I don’t know how we’re going to fit this into our luggage!). They could not locate the dress she was found in because they have reused it for other children. But, they did give us 4 pieces of clothing that Lydia wore when she was younger which was very gracious of them. And, finally, we took pictures by the front gate which is where our sweet baby was left and found. I took pictures up and down the street there on both sides as I know her birthmother or birthfather walked that street to bring her there to be cared for safely. Did they know she would be adopted? Did they live right there in the city? Did we drive right past their home? Did they come from the cave dwellings and bring her into the city to leave her somewhere better than in a remote spot where she wouldn’t be found quickly? We will never know. What we do know is that she was found. And, we are so grateful that we get to be a part of her story and she is such an important part of our story. 
 
 
 
 
 
 
Tomorrow, after doing a sightseeing trip, we are headed to the airport to fly to Guangzhou where the U.S. Consulate is. We will do more paperwork there and apply for Lydia’s visa, then we’re coming home. 
Oh, and I cannot forget to mention that Lydia walked today for the first time! She took about 10 steps without holding our fingers! 
Dear Evan, Ashlyn, and Drew – So good to skype you tonight and see all of you. It’s so fun to watch you guys enjoy your sister already. She is going to be so happy to meet you guys. She really is a happy baby. Her favorite nanny at the orphanage said she is “outgoing.” We’re seeing that more and more everyday. I know you will see her personality come out quickly once we are home. She’s got a great little giggle. Love you guys and miss you more every time we see you!

No related posts.

Posted by Kelly the Overthinker
Filed Under: adoption journey

  • « Previous Page
  • 1
  • 2
  • 3
  • 4
  • 5
  • 6
  • …
  • 9
  • Next Page »

Hello

I overthink everything. This blog is a prime example. Make yourself a cup of coffee and sit down for a read. Actually, make that a pot of coffee. There’s a lot of overthinking here.

Connect

Recent Posts

She’s come a long way

Gift ideas for a happy-China-traveler-to-be

Three gifts.

A letter to my friend on her adoption eve

The day my husband quit his job {reflections 5 years later}

Subscribe to keep up to date via a newsletter

Archives

Popular Posts

  • The day we met Lydia in Xi'an
  • Getting the attachment thing
  • The day my husband quit his job
  • Other places you can find my writing

Follow Along!

Categories

Recent Posts

She’s come a long way

Gift ideas for a happy-China-traveler-to-be

Copyright © 2015 | Design by Dinosaur Stew