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China again

5.18.16

Kids world map with arrow

Does it ever start to feel “old hat” or is it fresh still to you?

It’s a good question to ask of people whose passports are well stamped. We gave a neat, short answer on Sunday evening when we were asked. It was honest, but it was short and sweet. But, I’ve been thinking of it and off since then.

My to-do list is a file in Word, saved and reused over and over again. Clean off phone. Write notes for kids. Notify schools. Charge headphones. I have varied versions of a packing list for different seasons with cute little boxes for my checkmarks. We have a bit of a routine to this now. I know which sized packing cube to use for each category of clothing. The 13 1/2 hour plane ride no longer causes heart palpitations. It’s all much easier now than it used to be. We know what to do, when to do it, how to compensate when we don’t do it when we should have done it (which happens), and what to expect on the other side. We know where to go when we touch down in Beijing without reading any overhead signs. We look like foreigners and stand in the lines for foreigners but don’t feel all that foreign now. Maybe there’s a little bit of old hat in that.

We’ll be greeted by a few students at the airport and get on a charter bus for another few hours. When we finally arrive, there will be lots of students clapping and cheering for our arrival. It happens every time. But, the only old hat in that is the comfort of knowing it will be there, all those people will be there welcoming us.

Every trip is new. Even with a number of team members who go nearly every time, the team is new. At no other time was this particular team together going to this place to do this work. Never before were these 15 people teaching this curriculum and giving these messages and taking these students on trips to a park and to the Great Wall. While the schedule looks the same on a two-dimensional sheet of paper, it’s actually entirely new, a fact which makes our job as leaders anything but routine and comfortable. We’re leading the charge in unchartered territory which is both incredibly energizing and incredibly exhausting.

We leave home again in about 16 hours. Empty boxes are being checked, and Super Grammy is on her way now. We know how to do all this. But, it’s all new to us at the same time. Every time.

Here we go.

Baoding with Isaiah

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“Jasper” is coming too

5.14.16

The deadline was Friday. MAA simply couldn’t wait any longer to get all the paperwork and details lined up for each child coming over. The children who had not yet had a host family say yes at that point were not coming this time.

Thursday evening at 5:30pm “Jasper,” one of the best friends to the little boy heading to our home in about a month, still did not have a host family.

Jasper. Brett. Joel (4)

We had already asked good friends of ours if they’d do this hosting thing with us. We live only minutes apart; we already see each other often; it would be perfect. But, when we asked them last week, they just weren’t sure and felt like the timing wasn’t right to jump into something like this. We understood and affirmed them and told them how great it would be to host along with them another time. They thought so too and said they’d be interested.

But, it was Thursday night now. I had asked everyone I knew to ask. And, the social worker heading up this program had explored every lead she had too.

So, I texted them again.

would you reconsider hosting Jasper?

That’s how the conversation started.

I could nearly hear her voice when she texted that this was hard, that her husband needed more time. She told me what I already knew about them, that they take months to make big decisions and that this was crazy to try to decide something so big in just one night. I knew that. I really did know that.

With a heart of compassion for where they were, I texted back.

Ok. I can tell the social worker to look for other families….

But, then it was quiet for a little bit. And, then I got this:

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which of course warranted a fast response of this (because everyone celebrates with an exploitive of processed meat):

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I posted on Facebook that if anyone wanted to help donate to make sure “Jasper” could come with his buddies, they could donate to his hosting fees. Another adoptive mom who was already smitten with Jasper’s story and his sweet face saw it and also posted on Facebook with an announcement that she’d personally match any donations made as a result of her post. Within 24 hours, generous and compassionate people rallied for the sake of a boy they have never met, and every need was met.

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All three boys are coming. And, these two will be only minutes apart, swimming at the same Y pool, playing on the same playgrounds, worshipping at the same church, turning two households upside down while two families work hard to make sure they find both find theirs.

M.Y. in front of wall Jasper 2016.05.09 1-2

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