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Sunday Snapshots: {The Theatre (please read with British accent)}

4.18.11

I’m a self-confessed homebody. I really am. Fortunately, my husband is to. But, he splurged for our anniversary this year with a subscription of tickets to the “theatre” (please read that with a British accent). Since dates at home often become us sitting side by side with our MacBooks (sad but true), going out for a date isn’t such a bad idea.

Creatures of habit that we are (I’m making us sound like some real winners here), Grammy came to watch the wild monkeys, and we took off for dinner in Chinatown to our favorite dive complete with wall lamps that look like UFOs, a mounted god of some sort with oranges around him, a lit framed picture of a waterfall, pink glowing ceiling lights, and a chandelier that resembles one from a cheap wedding reception venue. Oh yeah, we love the atmosphere here.

Okay, so we spend a good bit of time smiling at the atmosphere which adds to the fun really. There’s just something about the decor, the fact that we’re obviously the only white people there, and that we have to wait for the waiter who speaks English just makes us happy. Reminds us both of our time in China, and we talked about how we dream of when we could go back.

Our trip to the store to get Pocky, roasted milk tea, and some biscuits Evan loves brings it all back too. They even have solar powered cats and odd looking Mickey Mouses that wave their hands. As we stopped in the bakery to get our dessert to take to the “theatre” (don’t forget the accent) for intermission, we caught ourselves trying to convert the price from RMB to USD. But, that would have made our custard roll nearly $14.

The show was great. We both just loved it. Though we didn’t belly laugh aloud like some of the patrons around us who I’m thinking enjoyed their dinner and preshow drinks perhaps a little too much, we did laugh together and exchange those looks often. You know the looks, the looks to each other just to share an entertaining moment, enjoying it as a couple rather than as two individuals.

Even with the pouring down rain and the fact that our clothes were damp from walking around the streets of Philadelphia throughout the entire show, it was a grand evening. Ticketty boo, if I should say so myself.

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383

4.16.11

When you have a child who was not with you from before he or she was born, when you don’t share memories of those first movements in the womb, when you don’t have pictures of your belly growing or video of their first coos, you cling to what you do have.

One of the ways I do that is by remembering significant dates. These dates don’t call for a party with balloons and streamers. But, they are significant nonetheless. Perhaps they are even more significant than the balloons-and-streamers dates. They make me take pause. Just stop and remember with the One who remembers all of those dates and then some. And, smile.

Some of these dates will be on our calendar every year–the day we got the call about Chen Mei Yue and saw her sweet face for the first time, the day we met her for the first time and received her into our arms, the day we arrived home and she met her brothers and sister and we were completed.

Today is not one of those days. Today is different. We won’t recognize it again. It’s just today.

383. Lydia lived 383 days without us. And, now, today, she has lived 383 with us. Starting tomorrow, she will have lived with us longer than she lived without us.

And, that feels good.

I’ve heard that real attachment takes about as long as your child lived without you. I always thought that was sort of arbitrary. For a 2 year old, does it take 2 years to attach? A 3 year old, 3 years? But, here we are, 383 days after we received her when she was 383 days old. And, maybe there is something to that “rule.”

Our attachment is still growing, maturing with new experiences, made clear through times like my weekend away when I really missed my baby and realized that she missed me too. But, I know it’s real. And, there’s something that just increases its clarity even more knowing that we are now on the plus side, the “more” side of the calendar.

She’s ours. And, she’s not going anywhere….in a matter of speaking.

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