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Dear Chick-fil-a…

3.5.13

Dear Chick-fil-a,

It was Daddy-daughter date night tonight. My husband and my 9 year old daughter got to have dinner together complete with a string quartet in the background at our local Chick-fil-a. The tables were set beautifully, candles were lit, flowers were presented, and the food they both love was served. They reported that the restaurant was hopping with dads and little girls. We love that you support families in a very tangible way through hosting events like this to get parents to connect with their children without distraction.

There was a booklet they received tonight called Continuing the Conversation full of questions (provided by the WinShape Foundation) Dads and daughters can ask each other on date nights to get the conversation going. What a great idea! What a great tool to help give both girls and their dads ways to grow their relationship beyond the day-to-day car dropoffs and homework help. 
My husband showed this booklet to me as soon as they got home because of a specific question in it. In the first set of daughter to daddy questions, he read me this one:

Tell me about the day I was born. What was it like for you?

I know this is a fun question to ask. I’d love to hear my own father answer this one. But, to be sensitive to families like ours and like a few my family met tonight at your restaurant who have children who joined their family via adoption, I think this question should have been worded differently.

Tell me about the day I joined the family. What was it like for you?

or

Tell me about the day you first met me. What was it like for you?

These questions would encourage the same conversation but in a way that honors families built a little differently, families who may not know anything about the day their child was born.

We love who you are and what you do. Sometimes, it only takes a little change to do it even better.

Sincerely,

Kelly

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Posted by Kelly the Overthinker
Filed Under: adoption, Reviews

Once upon a time

3.1.13

Once upon a time, I spent most of my day managing a little man who struggled with a lot of things. I worried. I tried hard to make things easier for him and often felt I wasn’t able. I cried. a lot. Evaluations and IEP meetings ended in at least one of us crying. I wondered what life would be like years later–like in 2013.

And, here we are.

We tried soccer. No, I tried soccer–an attempt that ended in us dragging the boy to a field where he’d hover on the side lines and cry, begging to go home. He finally announced to his super attuned parents, “I don’t like team sports!” And, that was it.

I never would have guessed that his niche would be on the stage. I should have. I should have guessed when as a preschooler, he’d interact with people as long as he had a costume on. But, I never thought that the boy who still can’t remember his own phone number would be able to memorize lines and stand in front of an auditorium full of strangers and come alive as a character. And, I mean come alive.

He loves it. He loved the practices. He loved the set building. He loved the backstage prep. My boy with sensory issues abounding even loved the makeup and costume with a collared shirt no less.

Once upon a time, this mama doubted and feared and made assumptions about a little boy based on my own experience and expectations.

That mama has been learning a thing or two lately.

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Posted by Kelly the Overthinker
Filed Under: why can't they just stay little forever

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