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Happy Grace Day {Grace turns 2}

3.23.17

On this morning, two years ago, I was holding my breath. So was the woman before me. She clutched her side and tried to convince us all that she wasn’t as far along in labor as she was. The next 90 minutes were like an episode of Amazing Race with the end goal being a brand new baby girl.

And, we won.

We fought against a family planning policy that limited this family to two children or one son {meaning, if their first child was a girl, they were allowed to have a second child to try again for a boy. Their first child was a boy.}. We fought against immigration policies and all sorts of policies that make it hard for a woman and a child to leave their country and enter ours. We fought against our own selfishness and self-protection and inclination to say mine mine mine with our home and our food and our things.

And, we won. With help from a lot of people, we won. And, as a result, one of the most beautiful little creatures ever created entered the world…here…in the land of the free and the brave…to a mama who is one of the bravest people I know.

Grace birth announcement 2

Today, that beautiful little creature turns two.

And, she’s just as marvelous as she was then…especially when she sends me messages on WeChat saying “Aunt Kelly.”

 

 

 

 

Two days after Grace turned 7 months old, China announced a big change to their family planning policy that had been in effect for three decades. As of the start of 2016, families across the nation would be allowed two children regardless of the children’s gender. Unfortunately, the law is not retroactive. So, over a year after the law change, Grace is still considered an illegal birth. Despite the fact that she holds U.S. citizenship, in order to register her in China for her ID card so that she can go to school, receive benefits allowed to their citizens, and even buy train tickets, her parents are still being told they will need to pay an exorbitant fine not required for second children born only 9 months after her.

We will keep praying for more changes, better changes, and for this child who He’s going to use for big, big things. He already has.

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Posted by Kelly the Overthinker
Filed Under: China, Helen

To my friend on the eve of her adoption day

3.18.17

In January, when we visited the orphanage where you have lived, we took so many pictures, hundreds of pictures! My friend Nicole spent a lot of time behind a fancy camera. I am sure you remember her because you borrowed that fancy camera to take a few pictures yourself.

Nicole’s pictures are beautiful—pictures of sweet little babies, pictures of people caring for each other, and pictures that just make me smile. But, of all the pictures she took, I think my favorite one is this one of you.

I remember exactly when and where it was taken. We were in the park, about to draw a crowd who wanted to see what we were doing. We divided the children into two groups and the Americans along with them. The kids were bouncing with excitement, so much so that we wondered if the games would work at all! In the middle of the chaos, there you were, ready to lead, confident, seemingly unaffected by the unbound energy, maybe even stronger because of it. This picture captured it all in one image. When I look at this picture, I see so many friends. But, mostly, I see a beautiful girl who has thrived despite a lot of hard things. I see a girl with big dreams for a faraway place. I see why so many children there call her their best friend. I see a girl I’m proud to call my friend.

There will be lots of happy ahead for you but lots of hard days too as you learn a lot of new things and miss the place you have known as home. When those days come, remember that your mother chose you and stopped at nothing to make you her girl. Look at this picture and know that you are worthy of her love.

I cannot wait to follow your journey as you become the woman you are meant to be.

Kelly Ayi

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