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7 days left

4.14.15

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When Lydia saw the paper link chain that I had made with Caleb and put up on the frig, she said:

I remember when we did a paper chain to countdown to Disney World. That paper chain was happier.

It was.

There are 10 people who are about to go through a big transition here next week, and it’s actually already started. The goodbyes have already begun as we go start our last times for everything. There’s sort of a pervasive lump in my throat, and I feel like the bright and cheery polka dots on our countdown paper chain are mocking me.

I know that paper chain is going to get shorter and shorter until all that is left is a patriotic picture of China that Caleb is excited to take home with him and a lot of tears.

Lydia note to Caleb

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A letter to my grieving friend

4.9.15

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Dear friend,
We know what today is. Your baby would have celebrated her first birthday today. We can’t know how you feel today and for the last month leading up to today since the Lord took her home. We can’t know how you will feel moving forward from today and everyday after. We can’t relate on that level. Our vain attempts to imagine being your position fall so obviously short. Even still, though we do not know the loss you know, we know the God you know.

He is present, never distant.
He is active, never still.
His vision is way bigger than the small glimpses we are able to see.
He is the only author of peace.
He loves you.
He loves your marriage.
He loves your family.
You are His.
He is good–but not only good–He is good in you, for you, and to you.

In those times when you may find yourselves looking at each other and unable to even speak, unable to put words to your hearts, may the Holy Spirit who is in you preach those truths and others to you. May they take solid root in your hearts, and may they fill you even in the depths of your being that seem unfillable.

We are trusting in the God we know to provide healing to all of you in a way that only He can. It may look very different that you may expect or even want right now, but we trust that He will build you up in time as you press on and that in so doing, you will see Him in ways others never will.

We have not forgotten your sweet daughter on her birthday today. We have not forgotten you. But, more importantly, He has not forgotten you and will not for a single moment. We pray that the impact of Avery’s life would go on and on and that you’d experience those blessings personally and see glimpses of ongoing blessings of her life to others all of your days.

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Filed Under: Letters

A #GraceGoestoChina update as of today

4.8.15

We expedited her birth certificate submission to the state the day she was born.

We went into the city of Philadelphia to the office of vital records the day she was released from the hospital to apply for copies of her birth certificate.

We spent an hour trying to get acceptable passport pictures.

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We went back into the city and picked up her birth certificates when they were ready a week after she was born.

We had an official passport appointment two days after that at our local library with both Frank and Helen and Grace which is required for a passport for a minor.

We expedited her passport which we received five days later, which was yesterday.

Today, Mark took them by train to New York City to the Chinese Embassy to apply for an official translation of her American birth certificate for use in China and to get special travel permission from the Chinese government. Even though she is a United States citizen with a United States passport, China recognizes her as a Chinese citizen since she has two Chinese parents, and she needs special travel permission rather than a visa like we would get.

Frank and Helen on train

Frank and Helen in taxi

frank and helen in nyc

Despite a long wait in a chaotic room that looked remarkably like a Chinese DMV, both applications were accepted. And, now, we all wait another week until the documents can be picked up at the Embassy with 2 business days to spare before they leave to go home to China.

Frank and Helen on train 2

(I’ve been texting them all day and insisting that Mark send me pictures so that I could be a part of the day while I was home with Caleb and then our four. Can’t wait to hear about Grace’s big trip to NYC.)

 

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A few good men

4.8.15

It’s significant. As a team, we step out in faith, some traveling across oceans for the very first time. It is a big deal with lots of preparing and lots of money, team conference calls, and coordinating. We don’t do it to “give back;” we can’t possibly serve for essentially a week at a Chinese orphanage and come remotely close to giving enough to warrant the phrase. We go for relationships, to enter into life with people–the children who are alone in crowded rooms, the women whose lives are about caring for children so that they can become someone else’s son or daughter, and the men responsible for leading and making decisions that change other people’s entire worlds. We go so the bridge between us can get a few more planks. It’s what He is about, so it’s what we want to be about too.

On February 18th, registration opened up for our next trip scheduled for October 7th-18th, 2015. 3 hours later, registration was closed. In just a few hours, 11 women who had heard about the trip and prayerfully considered the trip opened their hands up and said yes, jumping right on in there. We have room to take 15 people total, but I closed registration with those 11.

Why?

Because we need a few good men.

china125 china172 I have served alongside women on previous teams who are 110% present. I’ve seen God use those women to meet the needs of those children and caregivers in such specific ways. Sometimes I have gotten to be a part of that, and sometimes I have gotten to stand back and simply watch God’s hands around someone using her as His instrument.

But, there is something men are able to do there that women simply cannot. In the orphanage of 300 children, there is not a single caregiver there who is a man. There are men on staff there, but they are the directors, the executives. The ones charged with the daily role of feeding, changing, wiping noses, calming the crying child? They are all women, a good number of whom grew up there themselves. The staff is amazed when a team of Americans is willing to come across the world to build relationships and serve alongside them. When that team has a few men, their amazement is multiplied, more questions are asked as to why we are there, more smiles are exchanged, more pictures are taken of the foreign men who were willing to play with children…and God’s work is magnified. All because a few good men said yes to being used by Him on a team full of women.

If you want to learn more about the trip, email us, and we’ll reply with more details for you. If you think your husband or your son or your nephew may be interested, send this link to him and tell him you think he’d rock it loving orphans and those who care for them.

Our first team conference call is next week. If we don’t get a few good men to join us in the next week or so, we’ll open those 4 remaining spots up for other women.

We can’t wait to see who is on this next team.

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