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Call for warriors {prayer needed}

4.5.16

April 8th-10th has been marked on our calendars for only about a year now. It’s the largest event we are a part of in terms of numbers and likely logistical effort as well. It was born at a cafe (do all good ideas start with a cup of coffee?). A group of women gathered there to talk about how we could better serve the needs of adoptive moms, how we could support women locally, how we could come together in unity to encourage and bless each other. We sipped our lattes and shared challenges and ideas in this faithful brain trust and landed on something big that kind of took all of our breath away. We needed something for couples, not women alone, not for simply a community of mamas; we needed something to build up marriages.

I think Mark may have done more than gasp that evening when I came home and told him that The Sparrow Fund may or may not have just added a marriage retreat to our repertoire. But, it didn’t take him long to catch the vision for it. It just made sense. The best way to serve families is to build up the partnership of a husband and a wife.

We started with 60 couples in 2013. In 2014, we added a few more couples, forcing us to have overflow housing at another hotel. In 2015, we moved to a larger place to open it up to a few more people while still keeping a small retreat feel. Now, this weekend, in 2016, we have about 100 couples coming–couples from 12 different states around the country representing 334 children born to them or born to others and adopted into their families from at least 16 different countries around the world. The magnitude of the impact of pouring into these 200+ parents who are in turn pouring themselves out is incredible.

As April 8th-10th has gotten closer and closer, the magnitude has become more and more apparent but also has the mess that often comes with that. Where there is a place for transformation, life change, and healing as these marriages are and can be, there is also opportunity for weariness and a sense of never, impossible, and stuck to creep in. We need prayer in a significant way as Mark and I lead the charge for a team of us–all of whom come with our own stories–to serve each one of these men and women and enter into their stories. We could ask you to simply pray; we know many of you would do that. But, we want to be intentional to have consistent prayer coverage over the course of the whole weekend. The needs of the couples coming are that great—our needs as a couple who is seeking to be an effective conduit of His mercy and hope are that great.

If you want to pray at any time however you are led, please do and let us know that you did because it will build us up and encourage us as we press on. If you want to pray over a specific time frame to be a part of consistent prayer coverage for specific needs that we’ll provide to you, then let us know via email and we’ll direct you as to how to do that.

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Posted by Kelly the Overthinker
Filed Under: The Sparrow Fund

Six years ago today {the day we met our daughter}

3.28.16

Six years ago today, our arms and hearts were full.

We had Chinese food for dinner, food a bit different than the food we ate in Xian 6 years ago. And, we talked about that day, remembering how nervous I was, remembering introducing her to the family over the computer, remembering how she surprised us with a sweet little birthmark and dimples. We asked her how she felt that day and then how she thinks she felt when she said she didn’t remember.

Happy and scared.

That’s what she told us.

And, I’m pretty sure she is right with some sad and mad mixed in there too.

When she saw these pictures side by side tonight, you’d never know how she fussed about me interrupting her playing to to take this year’s edition. She smiled and snuggled in as she counted each one and wondered aloud what the next one and the next one and the next one would look like. Our simple little tradition of a photo in the same place in the same way on the same day every year seems to cement for her the permanency of where she is, the forever-ness of family and expectation of good things ahead.

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Filed Under: adoption, why can't they just stay little forever

Wanna teach your kids about purposeful investing?

3.24.16

Ashlyn's letter pixelatedWhen she begged to go with us to China again this May, we reminded her that she would need to do some work to get there. She wasn’t phased at all by that. She just trusted. He provided once; He’ll do it again. Of course He will. 

She wrote a letter; the words her own right down to asking for donators. She’s sent about 20 out. And, she feels good about the one response she’s gotten so far.

This morning, as I made my coffee and was thinking how proud I am of her for having a heart of service, I thought how cool it would be if she had a team of kid donators. Rather than having a group of adults supporting her, wouldn’t it be great if she had a team of kids who were willing to give allowance money or babysitting money or money from cutting someone’s grass to support her? Wouldn’t it be great if she was charged with not only serving in China on this trip but casting a vision to her team of senders {these sacrificing kids} of what serving looks and feels like?

That’s the kind of thing that gets this mama excited.

We aren’t desperate to get her funded. I’ve learned what she’s learned: He provided once; He’ll do it again. Of course He will. But, if you’d like your child to have the opportunity to consider being a part of this, email me with your child’s name and mailing address and I’ll have Ashlyn send a personalized ask letter out pronto. No gift is too small.

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a year ago today {Grace turns 1}

3.23.16

Exactly one year ago this minute, I was holding my breath. A woman who had become a dear friend over the months we had shared a a home sat at my kitchen table, clutching her side and trying to look like she wasn’t as far along as she was. The next 90 minutes were like an episode of Amazing Race with the end goal being a brand new baby girl.

And, we won.

We fought against a family planning policy that limited this family to two children or one son {meaning, if the first child was a girl, they were allowed to have a second child to try again for a boy}. We fought against visa limitations that make it hard for women and children to leave the country. We fought against our own selfishness and self-protection and inclination to say mine mine mine with our home and our food and our things.

And, we won. With help from a lot of people, we won. And, as a result, one of the most beautiful little creatures ever created entered the world…here…in the land of the free and the brave…to a mama who is one of the bravest people I know.

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Today, that beautiful little creature turns one.

And, she’s just as marvelous as she was then.

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In October, two days after Grace turned 7 months old, China announced a big change to their family planning policy that had been in effect for three decades. As of the start of 2016, families across the nation would be allowed two children regardless of the children’s gender. Unfortunately, the law is not retroactive. So, Grace is still considered an illegal birth. Despite the fact that she holds U.S. citizenship, in order to register her in China for her ID card so that she can go to school, receive benefits allowed to their citizens, and even buy train tickets, her parents are still being told they will need to pay an exorbitant fine not required for second children born only 9 months after her. We will press on praying for more changes, better changes, and for this child who He’s going to use for big, big things. He already has.

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Filed Under: China, Helen

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