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Without further ado…meet M.Y.’s family {guest post}

7.18.16

Once upon a time, a girl married her very best friend. And, life was good. God blessed them with one son, then two sons, then three, then four, then five sons. Son #4 waits for their joyous reunion in heaven one day. But, even amidst loss, life was good. It was a life filled with love and laughter and lots and lots of testosterone! And, their family was complete.

But, God has a way of working in unexpected ways. The nudge to adopt was persistent, but equally persistent was their ignoring of the nudge. “We can’t afford it,” they said; “We are too old,” they said. But, God’s nudges turned into audible, tangible undeniable leading and they finally said yes to adopting a son in 2013. They stood amazed at how the life that was good already could increase in goodness, but it did. Their new son was their delight, and now their family was complete.

But, God has a way of working in unexpected ways. They found themselves longing to adopt another child. But, they became quite good and pushing it aside. “Adoption is so very expensive!” “We still have loans to pay off from our first adoption;” “After years of struggling financially, we are starting to see the light at the end of the tunnel;” “And, we are even older now!” So, the longings were ignored and the quiet nudges were ignored as well and justified away…until last month.

Friends were hosting a little boy from China this summer. “Isn’t that great? Oh boy, he’s so handsome.” She shared pictures of Lego creations he made. “Wow! Isn’t that incredible that he made those himself? Josiah would love him.” She posted these words:

Oh my goodness. He just sat down at our dining room table and imitated us praying complete with hands folded and a “dear Lord” in the beginning. ‪#‎Hehearshim‬ ‪#‎findinghisfamily‬ ‪#‎whohasroomforonemore‬

“Oh wow. Do we have room for him?” With every post, what started as a quiet nudge increased in volume until it was a loud voice that we could no longer ignore. A whirlwind of conversations and connections led to a trip East to Philadelphia where we spent a weekend with our friends and the boy they were hosting who we learned was our son.

We are his family.

Mark and Kelly and their four children committed to following God’s call through hosting a sweet boy from China; they prayed that God would move through their efforts to provide him with a family of his own. God’s will became clear as both families prayed for His guidance. His handwriting was on the wall—in the support of our older sons, in the time we spent in Philadelphia, in the encouragement from Mark and Kelly, in the prayers of our son Josiah, in the unity between us. Early on in the process, before we gave our resounding yes, I voiced my fear: “It sure would be easier if we just dropped the whole thing.” One of our sons responded with, “Since when does God call us to do what’s easy?”

On the day after we returned, the day we knew we needed to respond one way or another, this is what my husband and I read during morning devotions:

Oh, Lord, what an amazing opportunity you have spread out before me – a chance to make a difference for you in a desperately hurting world. Help me to see the needs you want me to see, to react in a way that honors you, and to bless others by serving them gladly with practical expressions of your love. Help me be Jesus’ hands and feet, and through your Spirit give me the strength and wisdom I need to fulfill your plan for me in my own generation. In Jesus’ name I pray, Amen.

Later that day, we sent this message to Kelly:

M.Y. is going to be a DeVries. Happy Day!!

Our son…the seventh son of a girl and her best friend is coming home! We praise God who does far more than we could ask or imagine. He IS a good, good Father.

July 10 Devries

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Follow their journey to bring him home on THIS FACEBOOK PAGE. Consider helping them HERE so that M.Y. doesn’t wait a single day more than he needs to because of any reason related to finances. 

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Posted by Kelly the Overthinker
Filed Under: Advocating, M.Y.

Promise kept

7.17.16

wechat callThe best word to describe the six of us right now is GIDDY.

I had promised him I’d “call China.” He had asked me to call him too but then he scrolled through the contacts on my phone, shrugged his shoulders, and said: “I don’t know. Bù zhīdào,” communicating very clearly that he knew I didn’t have his number. I shrugged my shoulders too and told him I’d try.

And, tonight, we did!

In the lobby of his orphanage, three little boys gathered around the orphanage director’s phone. For about 15 minutes, we all laughed and shouted each other’s names, smiled so big our cheeks hurt (note my huge smile to the left), and said “Wǒ ài nǐ!”

He lost his front tooth. We had so hoped that wiggly tooth would fall out here. Apparently, he lost it on Friday, the day after he returned to China. It didn’t seem loose enough for that. I wonder if they pulled it regardless.

They all were happy. They were jumping up and down with excitement and playfully pushing each other out of the way to get closer to the little screen. We saw other staff in the background smiling, enjoying watching the boys enjoy this moment.

It was so good to see them.

They are good. They are all good.

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Posted by Kelly the Overthinker
Filed Under: M.Y.

He is {guest post by Mark}

7.16.16

playlist named pixelatedIt was only a few hours after the very emotional and tearful goodbye to the amazing 8 year boy who had lived in our house and had become part of our family for the past month. Random music was playing as I drove, and I Am came on. I had listened to this song more times in the last month than I had every month in the last year combined. It was one of his favorites and was second on the personalized playlist he had created on Kelly’s phone. He must have played that song a million times. When his mood was right, he would belt it out. He always got the “I Am” parts right, but when it came to the rest of the song, it was hit or miss. Sometimes, we would catch a few of the words; other times, we’d just laugh at his attempt.

I wonder what he was thinking about when he boarded the plane to come to Měiguó a month ago. In the video clip we saw of him before saying yes to hosting him, he said he didn’t know what America was. I am not too sure what he was thinking when he was with us for the month either, but I know he loved it. He loved us. There’s a lot of unknowns but the wonderful fact is that he came to us as an orphan living in a orphanage in the south of China with no one to call family and he boarded that plane back to China with a family scrambling like mad to get paperwork done so they can get over there and bring him back to his forever family. It was very hard to say goodbye, even for me, the “strong and stable” Daddy and ShuShu. But, there is great joy in the hard knowing that a family will not rest until he’s home.

I wonder what he is thinking and feeling now. What is going through his mind?

There’s no space that His love can’t reach.
There’s no place where we can’t find peace.
There’s no end to Amazing Grace.

The words of one of his favorite songs became my prayer for him. I pray that he experienced love, peace, and grace from us and from the God we love. And through that experience and the change it made in his heart, I pray that as he spends the next handful of months back at the orphanage, he can somehow process that there is a God who loves, provides peace, and extends amazing grace in every corner of his world, no matter where he is. I pray that God sustains him there in that place with that knowledge until his family brings him home and can continue what He started and what we joined Him in, pouring into every space and place of his life…love, peace, and amazing grace.

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Posted by Kelly the Overthinker
Filed Under: guest post, M.Y.

Zàijiàn

7.14.16

goodbye b&w

We said goodbye.

We woke before the sun did to get to the airport on time. I knew that he knew it was time as I rubbed his bare back as he slept and softly whispered his name. He carefully tucked “baby” and the few other treasures he was taking back with him—two small lego creations, a photo album, a little box with a button he could push to hear our voices, his toy toolset, a few American coins, his favorite minion pajamas, a ziploc bag of seashells he had collected, and the few pieces of clothing he had come with a month ago that never were worn.

The time came to let go of his hand and send him off with the other children and director through security. He avoided it at first, walking to the window and turning away. But, he saw our tears and his began. We brushed them from his cheeks and held him close. I assured him I’d “call China” and make sure “they” let him come back as he had asked me to do. He nodded. He settled down. And, we said goodbye, waving over and over until we couldn’t see them any longer.

I don’t have much else I want to say.

This all is hard. Every bit of it is hard.

But, I couldn’t be any more convinced than I am right now that every bit of the hard is so worth it.

This boy who waited and likely wondered if he would wait forever is waiting now to come back. And, as he waits, he isn’t in fear as so many older kids are before an adoption. He knows the love of a family. And, he knows it is good.

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Posted by Kelly the Overthinker
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