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A Public Identity Crisis

9.20.11

Sunday afternoons = Zhong wen afternoons. 

2 hours of Chinese language are now accompanied by an hour of traditional Chinese dance. Ashlyn, meet fan dancing. Fan dancing, meet Ashlyn. The two will never be the same.

We’ve only met twice so far. And, yes, “we” because I’m full in.

We’ve done the greetings (Ni hao! Ni Hao Ma?). We’ve done some introduction (Ni ji sui?). This week, we also reviewed, “Where are you from?” or “What is your nationality?” Lao Shi (teacher) had the children repeat, “I am American.” No brainer for Ashlyn. Wo shi Mei guo ren.

But, there’s a little girl in her class who was adopted from China.

When it was time to practice with a friend, Ashlyn and Sweet Little Girl came over to me for help (more like facilitation since my Chinese is, well, lacking). Ni shi na guo ren? Sweet Little Girl was quiet. She just looked at me.

“Do you know what to say?” Sweet Little Girl was quiet.
“Do you want to say, ‘I’m American.’ or ‘I’m Chinese.”

“I don’t know.”

“Well, you could say either one. You are American. But, you are also Chinese. You can decide which one you want to say.”

Still quiet.

Another child came up to practice, and Ashlyn moved on to conversation with him. Sweet Little Girl just stayed next to me listening to them.

“I want to say I’m Chinese.”

I pulled Ashlyn back over. Ni shi na guo ren?
Go ahead, Sweet Little Girl, a little coaching, then “Wo shi Zhong guo ren.”

The class sat back down, and Lao Shi asked each one questions they had to answer aloud.

She got to Sweet Little Girl. Ni shi na guo ren? Quiet. Ni shi na guo ren? Quiet. She started to coach her to say, “I’m American.”

I spoke up, “No, no, she wants to say she’s Chinese.” Oh. Oh, okay.

And, Sweet Little Girl told her, “Wo shi Zhong guo ren.”

And, then the teacher moved on to the next child.

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Posted by Kelly the Overthinker
Filed Under: adoption

99 more days

9.18.11

Drew may not be able to tell time yet, but perhaps he has some sort of internal calendar sending him messages of good cheer.

While the rest of us are complaining that Halloween candy has taken over our grocery stores, some people have already started planning for Christmas. We do only have 99 days to go.

And, while I’m standing in our basement and staring at the mounds of unfitable clothing and unwanted (at least by me) toys and games I’ve collected to sell at an upcoming consignment sale, I’m wondering how we could possibly need more “stuff.” I’ll clear this basement out in October for the sale but no doubt will have another basement full to sell at the sale come Spring.

I’m all about shopping with a purpose — remember our May fundraising drive to build the nest for The Sparrow Fund? Then, there’s Jiayin as well as The Sparrow Fund’s little shop with all the beautiful things from the women in Nairobi. And, I’m always visiting the fundraising families’ page at WAGI to see what new things families may be selling to raise money for their adoptions. By all means, support good causes with your “Honey-I’d-really-like-this” lists and your shopping and gift giving.

But, I want to show you another option too–a new website we just learned about called Shift My Gift. You can actually create what is sort of like an online registry of sorts for any occasion you want–adoption fundraising, a birthday, Christmas, wedding, anniversary…you get the idea. Then, you choose any nonprofits you’d like to shift your gifts to–though I definitely would encourage you to check this option out. Then, with one click, you can tweet your registry or post it to Facebook or simply enter in email addresses to show it to people.

Instead of asking your kiddos to write a long Christmas list this year, you could sit with them in front of the computer and let them decide which nonprofits they’d like to give to instead of receiving more gifts. What a neat opportunity to grow generous hearts…and declutter your play room just a little.

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Posted by Kelly the Overthinker
Filed Under: The Sparrow Fund

I dreamt about Xiao Feng last night

9.16.11

We were in China–just Mark and me–and were needing to leave to come home.

We were at his orphanage in Xi’an. And, someone there who worked with Xiao Feng came out to talk to us about him. They said he needed some new medicine  and that he was anxious about having it.

Mark went into the room where he was laying in bed to be with him while I stayed with the orphanage staff. I don’t remember what we talked about, but we talked about the little boy.

Mark then came out and told me how anxious he thought Xiao Feng was.

So, I went to him.

I sat by his bed on the floor and just touched his face and head. He was awake at first and then fell asleep. Mark came in to gently tell me we needed to leave. I told him we’d leave the next day because I could not leave Xiao Xiao’s side until morning. Mark understood.

And, I just sat there and kept touching him warmly like I would one of my own children when they are sick or upset.

And, then I woke up.

Mark handed Lydia to me while he went to make her a bottle. And, I snuggled her close in our bed under lots of covers, and I thought about Xiao Feng.

I’ve had some families ask about him. I’ve sent his file to several people. But, I haven’t heard from anyone yet if God has called them to bring him home. As far as I know, he’s still waiting. He has probably seen a lot of children leave the orphanage to meet their families. I trust it will be his turn soon. This boy is ready to bless someone’s family.

I feel like he’s already blessed me.

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Posted by Kelly the Overthinker
Filed Under: adoption

{Parenting is} simply smileable

9.16.11

I’ve been sluggish lately. I am fine in the mornings, lots of energy. But, after lunch,…not so much energy. I start moving a little slower and have been indulging lately in a cup of coffee that is about 1/4 caffeinated (totally living on the wild side, I know) to keep me going.

Lydia is a marathon napper (thank you, thank you). So, afternoons are just Drew and me. And, when I’m tired like I have been lately, those afternoons may not be so smile inducing. Playing the board game Guess Who for the 10th time when I’m really wanting to take a nap doesn’t make me want to smile.

But, yesterday, Drew was inspired.

85 degrees outside. The only real sign of fall (until the cool day we’ve had today) has been that school is back in session. 
And, Drew announced he was Santa.
He watched Rudolf clips online. We listened to the Jingle Bells Pandora station all afternoon. And, we played Candyland a couple times since he told me that’s really a Christmas game because of all the candy.
I was officially named North Pole Chef (I think an elf may have been a more desirable position…or Rudolf…but, whatever). 

Hours later, Santa waited outside for the older kids to come home (who he informed me were on the naughty list). Our neighbor told him what she wanted for Christmas. A car. He laughed and told her no way because it wouldn’t fit in his bag without breaking it.

I watched from the sunroom as cars drove past. There were some heads turned. And, I saw some smiles.

And, this mama was smiling pretty big.

What makes this even more smileable is that we don’t even do Santa (which may make you wonder why Drew so readily could put his hands on this Santa suit…my grandfather did Santa…and I inherited his suit when no one else wanted and I couldn’t bare to see it go).

Sometimes, parenting is simply smileable. 
And, when it’s not, I’ve always got my 1/4 caffeinated coffee. 

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Posted by Kelly the Overthinker
Filed Under: why can't they just stay little forever

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