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Clean houses aren’t all they’re cracked up to be

1.3.13

It’s all put away–the lights, the stockings, the tree, all the festive tchatchkes (I won’t tell you how long it took me to figure out how to spell that word. hard to google something you can’t spell.)

And, the clean house that would normally make me stand back and admire proudly seems utterly depressing. Would it be appropriate for me to cry about school starting again like my 10 year old did last night?

Can’t seem to get rid of my favorite Christmas card of the year — the one where my 6 year old calls his dad by his first name and then wrote out a radio station jingle for the whole message of the card. Yeah, that one’s a keeper.

But, I guess I can take this thing down–our Jesus Storybook Bible advent reading checklist. A fresh new copy sans ampersand scribbles will grace our frig next year no doubt. Loved, loved, loved it.

In fact, we so enjoyed the readings every night at dinner that we’re keeping on keeping on with it. I did my best to cheer up the grouchy troops and started right in on the first reading tonight at dinner from Thoughts to Make Your Heart Sing. It looks awesome, and I’m thinking we could all use some thoughts to make our hearts sing in this clean house. Who else is in?

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Posted by Kelly the Overthinker
Filed Under: holidays, Traditions

Newness

1.2.13

They actually did it. They wanted to stay up until midnight. We said yes, winking at each other and taking bets on how long they’d all last. No later than 10:30 for sure.

12:06. Every last one of ’em stayed up til 12:06 which meant we too stayed up which hasn’t always been the case (yeah, we party hard here).

The excitement was clearly overwhelming here.

At 11:55, Ashlyn said, “I don’t get this whole ball drop thing.”

Get it or not, it dropped like it has for zillions of years. (Okay, whatever, zillions is close enough.)

We hollered a bit, gave some kisses, watched the crazies on tv for a couple minutes, and then told the kids at 12:04 it was time for bed.

Which is when Drew said, “Wait, when are we going to watch a ball drop?”

Goodbye, 2012.

Looking forward to a year of newness–a new journey to embark as a family and new mercies upon mercies.

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Posted by Kelly the Overthinker
Filed Under: holidays, Traditions

Prayers to close 2012 {let his eyes move you}

12.31.12

It’s the last day of 2012. I’ve been thinking about what my last post of the year could be–things I’ve learned this year, things I’m looking forward to in 2013, interviews with the kids. Nothing really jumped out to me.

This morning, a friend shared this link. It’s of a baby boy. Abandoned. Found at a busy Zhengzhou station. The crowd of people look on. Some smile at him as he peers with wide eyes back. Some look on perhaps with shame or just curiosity. Regardless, there is a crowd watching, waiting to see what will be done with this child bundled and alone.

He will be raised by a fruit vendor. No formal adoption, just a handwritten document with some red inked fingerprints. That’s it. No dossier, background checks, homestudies. He’s told by the police not to sell the child, raise him as his own and he’ll take care of him later.

Watch the video. If like me, you have a child who you parent via adoption, pray for your child’s birthparents and for peace for them this coming year. Thank God for the incredible privilege you have been given to parent your child. It is indeed a privilege and a huge responsibility. Pray for children like this boy who find themselves alone. And, pray for big things to happen in 2013 to care for children around the world–that more families would be able to keep their children, that more children could be adopted in their home countries safely, that more children will know the love of a family.

It’s not the last post of 2012 that I had been thinking about. But, it just felt right to post today. The fun posts will come. For right now, watch the video and let this sweet baby boy’s eyes change your heart today as you say goodbye to 2012 and anticipate a year of new beginnings. 

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Why we all should care about the ban on Russian adoption

12.30.12

In case you didn’t hear, on Friday, Putin signed into law a ban on adoptions of any Russian children to American families. Period. It was in harsh response to a U.S. law targeting Russians as violating human rights.

It’s politics, right? Why should we care? I’m not a mother of a Russian child. You likely aren’t either.

We can’t not care. There are about 740,000 reasons why we can’t not care.

In their government’s lashing back at our government regarding human rights, they are significantly limiting the future of potentially thousands of children who now fill what have been long recognized dismal and depressing orphanages.

Some of these lawmakers claimed that adoptive parents are the real abusers. Some said that Russian children were adopted by Americans only to be used for organ transplants, objects for sexual exploitation, or “cannon fodder for the U.S. Army.”A spokesman for the Russian orthodox church added that Russian children adopted by Americans and raised outside of their particular church would not “enter God’s kingdom.” I’m stunned.

Photo from The Toronto Sun

740,000 Russian children not living with their parents and about 18,000 Russian families currently in the process of adopting, most wanting only the healthy, physically attractive infants. If every single one of those families adopt a child right now, they will provide families for only 2.5% of the current children there who need one. Do the math. That leaves a lot of children.

While about 130,000 more children will come into care in Russia this year, another 15,000 will “graduate” from care at the age of 16 or 17. Of those 15,000, about 40% will resort to a life of crime including prostitution and selling drugs to get by (that’s 6,000 children), 33% will continue to be unemployed longterm (that’s about 4,950 of these children who will never hold a job), 20% will remain homeless on the streets (that’s about 3,000), and 10% simply give up and commit suicide (1,500 children who leave the orphanage because they are too old take their own lives).

While Americans brought home to families a small number in comparison to the overwhelming number of Russian children available for adoption right now–942–each one of those children now have a family and a future they may not have had otherwise. I know a few of these families myself. I know how loved these children are and how they see hope as bright as the sun in front of them.

We can’t not care about this new law–a hasty political retaliation at the expense of children–not just “Russian children” from a distant land with unknown faces but children, children like Levi whose parents are waiting to bring him home right now, anxiously waiting to hear if the son they’ve held in their arms already can come home soon. Children just like our children. 

740,000 children. 740,000 reasons we need to care. And, another 130,000 reasons to care in 2013.

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Posted by Kelly the Overthinker
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