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Besides the cake and the pictures

9.26.13

first email

It all started with this. Just an email, followed by lots of long phone conversations before we had unlimited long distance on cell phones. 109 days later, we were engaged.

Gazing down at my diamond and band below it as I helped our 11 year old with long division this afternoon, I thought to myself that I wouldn’t change a thing. The way we met, our first real date, his proposal, the season of engagement, the beautiful warm sunshine we had on September 26, 1998.

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I wouldn’t change the look we exchanged when we first saw each other a long aisle apart and the feeling I had that at that moment, I was the most beautiful woman in the world.

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I wouldn’t change the long veil in front and behind me that gathered in a big poof on the floor as we knelt to pray,

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I wouldn’t change the vows we exchanged in front of a couple hundred people feeling like we were the only ones there.

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I wouldn’t change the butterflies I felt when we first kissed as husband and wife while he held my hands tightly.

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I wouldn’t change that feeling I had that nothing else mattered but us, that I didn’t care at all about linen colors and buffet lines, just knowing that we would be leaving that place together and would never be without each other again.

I wouldn’t change a thing.

Except that Winnie-the-Pooh colored cake that should have been ivory. I’d change that. And, maybe the scrapbook I put together to hold our mediocre photographs. That too.

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But, besides the cake and the cheesy album, 15 years later, I wouldn’t change a thing.

Very much in love with the man who still gives me butterflies…

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Posted by Kelly the Overthinker
Filed Under: Celebrations, Mark

Why you may hear me singing daily

9.25.13

I love shiny. Shiny is pretty. I love shiny….

She’s the finder of pennies. Everywhere she goes, she manages to find a penny. Today’s found treasure led to a song.

Your turn to sing a song, Mommy. You make up a song.

Not feeling particularly like a Maria this morning,

Oh, I don’t know what to sing about, honey.

Which warranted this reply,

I have an idea! Why don’t you sing this, ‘I love Lydia. I love Lydia. I love Lydia…’ [put to her own version of music]

At that point, I couldn’t help but be all in. I belted out my own rendition, adding a bridge about how cute she is.

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I watched her making funny faces wearing her “I love Mom” shirt, and it struck me how secure she can be as my child while insecurities live right beneath the surface. She can tell me to sing a song about my love for her because she knows I do. She can ask me to push her on the swing and tease me about her getting growing bigger when I’ve told her I want her to stay small forever because she knows she’s mine and I’m hers.

And yet…

She walks a bit ahead of me in the store and loses sight of me for a second then runs to me, “I thought I was lost. I thought you left me.” It’s time to take the kids to school, and she sees us all putting on our shoes as we do every morning, and she panics to grab hers quickly, “Don’t leave me! Don’t leave without me!” She yells for me from her room, and I don’t hear her right away or respond right away, “You didn’t hear me. You forgot me!”

It’s the juxtaposition she lives with all the time—knowing she belongs and she’s loved and yet experiencing something very hard called abandonment followed by a year of missing the earthly relationship she needed most of all.

I’ll keep singing, “I love Lydia, I love Lydia, I love Lydia…” It won’t make the hard stuff go away, but I pray that all our love songs will make her journey through it all a little easier.

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Posted by Kelly the Overthinker
Filed Under: adoption, Lydia

Itching to go

9.25.13

boots

This is not why we went to Nashville—though I so wanted to bring home a pair of these.

We went for something a bit more important than cowgirl boots.

Visiting Orphans is sending out 52 teams, 475 people, in 2013 to do just that—visit orphans, be a light, encourage, support, come alongside. We sat among other leaders and prepared for what will be life changing—a trip the first week of March 2014 to serve at an orphanage in Shaanxi, China.

Visiting Orphans Collage

The team has 9 members now from all over the place—someone just joined the team this morning. They are men and women who have made a commitment to serve, not even totally knowing what they will be doing but knowing that they are being obedient in simply going. There’s spots for 6 more to join us. I don’t know who they are yet, but I know the One who does. Can’t wait to see who He brings together for this.

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Filed Under: China, The Sparrow Fund

Together Called {4 minutes, 16 seconds}

9.18.13

Things had been buzzing all day. By 9:30 or so, the only preparation we had left to do was click “Publish Event.” So, at 9:45pm Monday night, we stopped all the chatter and bowed our heads. As a small group of volunteers, we each prayed for each person who was hitting refresh, for every couple who needed to be there, for the speakers, for the volunteers, for no technical issues with registration.

Then, Mark hit that button, and we all waited to see what would happen. We expected it to fill quickly. We had talked the registration up a good bit, encouraging people to have some “fast fingers.” But, in those 30 seconds or so before the first email notification of a registration came in, a little doubt crept in, and I confess that I thought, “Oh, Lord, what if hardly anyone registers tonight after all?” It was that little feeling of nausea in the pit of my stomach that tells my brain, “What in the world are you doing? How did you end up here? Do you really think you can do this?”

And, then the first email hit Mark’s inbox. Four of us gathered around his screen and another two watched us via Skype as the emails came in one after another, and we responded in shock. As quickly as they started pouring in, they stopped.

It took 4 minutes and 16 seconds according to the time stamps on the registrations to fill Together Called 2014.

Less than 5 minutes of craziness left our heads spinning. We read through each notification, excited to see names—some familiar ones and some we have families we have never met before—of the people we would be pouring grace on this February. For a little while, I forgot all about that momentary feeling of doubt that had felt so real only minutes before. God didn’t let me forget it entirely though; instead, He spoke to me through it.

This isn’t your thing; it’s mine. I’ve called you to this, to serve, to give, yes, but the success of it—success by my definition—from registration right on through until the last person drives away from the retreat in February rests on me. It isn’t about you at all; it’s about me.

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In about 5 months, this room will be buzzing, likely not unlike my dining room was buzzing Monday night. There will be lots of chatter, women giving hugs to greet one another, some laughter and stories shared. Maybe a few of those men and women who fill this space will get that nauseous feeling in their stomachs too, and they’ll be asking themselves, “What in the world are you doing? How did you end up here? Do you really think you can do this?”

As He continually reminds us of our calling, our prayer is that He’ll do that for those couples at Together Called. Maybe it will take 4 minutes and 16 seconds, maybe it will take the whole weekend, maybe it will be a much longer process that only begins that weekend when we’re together. Regardless of how long it takes, I trust that it will happen, He’ll speak to each one of those parents and parents-to-be and remove those doubts and fears and remind them of Truth.

This parenting thing isn’t your thing; it’s mine. I’ve called you to this, to serve, to give, yes, but the success of it—success by my definition—from the waiting to bring your child home, to when you become a family, right on through until your nest is empty and your children are building their own nests rests on me. It isn’t about you at all; it’s about me.

If you want to be added to the waiting list to join us, click here. We’re doing all we can to serve all who want to be there and are already actively pursuing how we can do that better going forward.

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Filed Under: The Sparrow Fund

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