Dear Chick-fil-a,
Tell me about the day I was born. What was it like for you?
I know this is a fun question to ask. I’d love to hear my own father answer this one. But, to be sensitive to families like ours and like a few my family met tonight at your restaurant who have children who joined their family via adoption, I think this question should have been worded differently.
Tell me about the day I joined the family. What was it like for you?
or
Tell me about the day you first met me. What was it like for you?
These questions would encourage the same conversation but in a way that honors families built a little differently, families who may not know anything about the day their child was born.
We love who you are and what you do. Sometimes, it only takes a little change to do it even better.
Sincerely,
Kelly
Such a great post! I wish I knew someone there! But I bet you could just send it to someone listed on their website.
Oh, I don’t think that is a sad question at all. As a mother of an adopted child I can tell him all about the day he was born. And definitely, if I could not, I would be able to tell him as many things as I could about that time if it were asked of me.
Hats off to Chick Fil A for doing something so lovely for the community. I am thankful for them!
Kudos Kelly!
Wow … this really got me thinking. We’ve adopted twice – once domestic, once int’l. For our 2nd adoption, the suggested change of wording would actually make the question much more awkward and difficult for us. The day my husband met my daughter was one of the most painful days of her life (that we know of). It was the day she was stripped from everything she knew, yet again, and handed over to complete strangers … one of whom she couldn’t even hardly look at, let alone touch (my husband). Over time he earned her trust and they are now deeply bonded. However, the day she was born he would have been able to share about that’s when God was stirring in our hearts that we had a daughter out there somewhere (like to the actual week) …. how we prayed for her, etc.
So as I pondered all of this it made me realize again how unique each person’s experience is. I’m reminded of how much we need the Lord to give us wisdom as we walk this journey with our kids. I’m so glad we can count on Him to do just that.
THANK YOU for sharing this, Kelly. It really made me think. And wow – how neat of Chick-fil-a to host such family events.
Ugh – somehow “unknown” was clicked. Just stopping by to say unknown was me. :)
We were near a Chick-Fil-A this weekend that was advertising this event too. I teared up when I read the sign. This is no less than the fourth time this MONTH that I’ve seen a “daughter-daddy” event. I’m happy for the families who get to participate … but as a mom with no daughters it was another painful reminder :-( {I know I still wouldn’t have actually participated since it was a DADDY night} Perhaps it’s through these kind of holes that we are given the opportunity to see things from a new perspective. I’m super glad your family had a wonderful time and had some great suggestions for future events!
Great Post. I hope she had fun. It looks like a great event.